Brigitte, I really love your beautiful long hair.. And of course this webshow:)

as a member of the male of our species i disagree that the boyfriend in question should have been consulted! his girlfriend can do whatever she likes to her appearence unless it was having her entire face pierced or getting a small tattoo that ended up covering her face with stars...it's not like it really affects him in any immediate way.
Just imagine if he went off and spent a lot of money that they'd been saving on something without consulting her...now that would be a bad thing and possibly reason for argument!

You could try having your interviewee record their own video normally and then send you the whole file by email or filehosting. You could still use the vidoechat for interacting but you could then use the real video for editing. That would get rid of the no audio problem, as well as the terrible audio problem on the second guy.

As far as hair goes, getting in a fight with your girlfriend over her haircut, or even just being an [filtered word] about it when she shows up with it, means you are either more controlling than most people would accept as sane, very shallow, or just acting that way because you don't really care about your girlfriend anymore and wouldn't mind if she left.
That being said: hair is wierd. I really don't like short hair on women. I can understand the impulse to be unhappy about really short hair, but to act on that disapproval and even go so far as to be mad about it is either moronic or, as I said, speaking to ulterior motivations.

For those interested in evolutionary psychology: one theory of attraction to long hair, (and an account of the male/female hair disparity) is that hair is like an unfalsifiable record of health. Long hair is literally like a daily ticker tape of what kindof excess nutrients your body was putting out each day, stretching back for years. The increased preference of long hair on females over males is that female reproductive success has more to do with physical health whereas male reproductive success has more to do with access to resources/social standing.
This theory, and a lot of evolutionary psychology, could be indulgent nonsense, but it's interesting to think about - even if it is a little like sticking yourself in a zoo and poking yourself with a stick.

Today's show freaked me out on a few levels.

The whole thing(show) was just one question about hair. It is her hair, hopefullyou like HER not just her hair. Please give guys some credit for not all being self centered morons. Even if you hate it, the boyfriends code of conduct says you must 1) Acknowledge it, but that is never enough(learned that the hard way)....2) You must always compliment it(even if you hate it). If it really bothers you, that counts too but timing becomes the issue. Three weeks later or longer you can then mention that (even though you loved it!)you wished you had known in advance she was going to do it.

Also(off topic), you seemed kind of mean(very serious and somewhat indignant) when you responded with your thoughts, but then again you seemed nice when you actually appeared to be interacting wth the guy. Who are you?

Mean Brigette kinda scares me...(meow).

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ps: When I posted this your voice came on out loud as the video auto restarted and I actaully jumped like you caught me doing something I shouldn't be. Wow.

If I may interject a Biblical perspective: I Corinthians 7:4 says this: "The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife."

Notice, though, that THAT particular Biblical verse is talking about husbands and wives. Boyfriends don't exactly qualify as having the same claim with regard to their girlfriends as husbands have with their wives; therefore, I (as a guy) disagree with Chris Thompson that "Jan" should "have absolutely told her boyfriend". She's under no social, moral or legal obligation to him until they've walked down the aisle together. I DO, however, agree with Chris that communication is key to any relationship, and her taking the option of conferring with him ahead of time may have paid huge dividends in averting a train wreck. I also agree that, since the deed is done, Jan's boyfriend may as well buck up and live with it as pleasantly as he can. Life is too short to muddy a relationship over such a peripheral and reversible matter as hair length.

Brigitte... you don't have to warn us if you want to shave your head bald. Go for it!

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I love this question. Me and my girlfriend have discussed this same issue. She has long beautiful thick black hair. It is one of the physical features that attracted me to her. It makes her look femine. In my opinion one the traits of a femine woman, which is what I'm attracted, is long hair. My girlfriend always tells me that she wants to cut it. I understand why because it does require a lot of time and effort to maintain. I've told her many times that I love her hair, as Brigitte suggested in the video, and that it makes her look beautiful.

My girlfriend has asked my opinion whether or not she should get a hair cut. My answer is, "if you want to get a hair cut you should". I truly believe that. I'm not going to like it, but if that is what she really wants and it will make her happy she should do it. I want her to be happy so even if this is something that I don't like I will not tell her not to cut it. Besides, I have a blue Velour Adidas sweat jacket that I absoutely love. My girlfriend tease me and calls it my "ghetto jacket". She sincerely does not like this jacket. I'm not going to stop wearing it because she does not like it.

So to make a short story long, I think that a woman should tell her boyfriend that she is planning on getting a haircut. The purpose of this conversation is not permision it is to inform him. You don't want him to react the way that Jan's boyfriend did. I'm not say it is right what he did, but I can understand it.

After Jan has gotten the hair cut her boyfiriend should back off. There should not be a long drawn out argument over this. At this point you have to accept what has happened. I think if she asks for your opinion you tell her the truth and let her know your preference is long hair. But after that conversation you let it go.

Comment: Ladies whenever you are unsure about what your boyfriend will think about a change you are contemplating to your appearance you will never go wrong with the feminine choice. A few examples to think about, long hair instead of short and dresses over pants.

Brigitte, will you provide us with a transcript of Robbie's comments?

As much as I hate to disagree with Brigitte I'm afraid I have no choice in this matter. Chris is right. I'd even go further and say she shouldn't have done it at all. I can't speak for all guys, but I like girls with long hair. Yes it's shallow, and maybe even sexist. But as Heyheyjk pointed out, if a guy shaved off his full head of hair or made some other drastic change. You can bet his girlfriend would get just as upset. However! If Brigitte were to cut her hair short, I would still watch her videos. Her wit, humor, and intelligence far outweigh something as trivial as hair length.

PS. Ideas for next video: How to read lips. That way we can find out what Robby had to say.

This isn't about just changing any little thing, this is about hair. Most men like women with longer hair. It's a guy thing. Name one supermodel with short hair. I had this same thing happen with my wife and I wouldn't talk to her for hours. All women look good with longer hair, even the ones that still look good with shorter hair. It's like Chris said, if he really loved her long hair and then she wacked it off ... not good. I'm not saying it's fair for us to react like that, but what if your boyfriend shaved his head without telling you (and especially if he didn't really look that good with no hair). Would you be upset? It's not wearing a blouse he doesn't like and she can change it. Hair is a big deal for a guy and she could have discussed it first, at least, before doing something so drastic. Let the opinions fly.