( Eyeball eyeball mouth: well when you look at an eyeball, both your eyes are looking at one of theirs; then that means both of theirs are looking at one of yours, including the one (of theirs) you are looking at. So, they are always looking into your same eye(s). Or never. Now I'm nausesou. sorry

Another "Don't do" suggestion (from recent experience):

Don't start-off a message to a woman you met the previous day and then located on MySpace as: "Sorry for the MySpace stalking "

Seems that some people don't know the whole "Facebook Stalking", "Myspace Stalking" joke, and find it creepy, going so far as to state "I'm not sure that your confession of "stalking" & tracking people online makes me comfortable having any sort of interaction with you to be quite honest".

I mean seriously, it seems to me that someone who has a public profile on a social networking site might be a little less wary of being contacted by someone with whom they met previously and had a conversation, in which they even asked how to pronounce the other persons last name correctly. Or at least a sense of humor about online social behavior...

I actually study human social and mating behavior, as an academic. While I teach courses on it and publish research on it, I still suck at the whole dating scene...

Salud,
Jon

Good use of parentheses.

I think email and blog posts should be considered as private as a postcard. Same w. chat and texting.

This stuff defiantly does not get any easier with age. Realize that what I am about to say is just my own opinion and, as I am old AND single, you should probably be taking it with a grain of salt. My impression may be wrong, but, it seems spazzles14 believes that they are in love with someone whom they have not yet fully developed a close relationship. If someone thinks that they love someone with whom they have not already developed a relationship, they are probably fooling themselves. Infatuation, lust, these things can happen on sight, they can be very strong, and usually happen in the first or second meeting, and last until we get to know the person a little better. They can certainly grow into love. But I believe love, true/real love, requires a host of things which can only be discovered with time.

We all have things about our selves that we hope no one sees. He may seem perfect at first sight, but could you love him if you found out that perhaps his only fault (the one he was so good at hiding) was that he likes to hit women, or he loves kids a little too much? Of course not. There are an awful lot of less extreme failings that would disqualify someone from being the "True Love". Most of the failings can't possibly be seen on first sight. Many of them can't be seen until we really get to know someone. How could you know if you don't get to know him over time. I read that the average woman goes on 2.2 dates per month, must date 12 men before "meeting a keeper", and go out with him 10 times before feeling the "onset of love" (Daryl Cagle).

From a distance it is easy to put someone on a pedestal. Up close and personal it is easy for them to fall. The personality we see at a distance is not the one we come to know with contact and time. It would be rare for any of us to be exactly what others first impression of us was at first meeting. None of this means that you shouldn't let him know you are interested. If it then leads to something, good. If it doesn't then, good. Don't say love, just say interested for now. See what develops. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. At least you will then know and won't have any regrets about what could have been. Regrets are part of the "stuff that defiantly does not get any easier with age." But do it in person. Body language, voice quality, facial expressions, these can't be delivered in an eMail. With out those it is easy to be misunderstood. For instance: "Please, don't, stop!" Does my last sentence mean "Please don't continue what you are doing", or does it mean "Please don't you dare even look like you are going to stop what you are doing"? It is all in how it is said.

On the other hand, eMail is a great way to invite some for coffee and brief conversation. Brig's flirting tips... good advice.

MartyNet

I'm a little confused about the whole won't see him again but might meet at some random function thing. But putting that aside. Assuming she was going to see him again, would she say it? If not, then there is probably no point in saying it in an email. If she would, then save it for that possible chance meeting. Unless she thinks saying it in an email may encourage him to meet her again. Also sending it in an email has a certain problem. Would he take it seriously? More often than not, emails do not convey the emotion attached to the statement. I've learned that my sarcasm does not work in many types of electronic text communication.

I wonder if someone we all know will use the advice given by Brigitte to somehow get a response from her about his ankle injury?

I also have a problem with the 13 looks thing... if I caught someone looking at me 13 times (But Betsy - you were looking at THEM 13 times to know they were looking at YOU 13 times!!! You make a good point, but I was only looking to see if they were looking again.) I would think it was a little creepy, I think. But maybe that is because I am not a man. Who am I to say?

I do, however, think this whole video blog is GREAT advice because this girl should NOT profess her love in an email to someone she may never see again. Why may she never see him again anyway, if she knows him well enough to love him??? I need all the deets.

I had something awesome to say when I started this whole thing, but then I said all this other stuff and now I don't remember.

This was sooooo helpful! In that I was wondering if I should use email to tell a guy, that I thought I was friends with but when his CRAZY girlfriend made him not be friends with me he stopped talking to me, but then they broke up and he still isn't talking to me, that he was one big bafoon to discard our friendship after 12 years. While the flirting tips were equally helpful, they don't really apply to this case, but I think that your point about the awkwardness that might ensue should we ever encounter each other was enough to smack some sense into me. So I asked my friend to tell his friend that he was a bafoon. Yes, as a matter of fact I AM 42 yrs old and this stuff DOES NOT GET EASIER WITH AGE.