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dear sarah,
Posted Thu, 08/27/2009 - 08:24 — secret life advice
Your Question: My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 14 weeks now and we have never actually gone on a date at all. Is that O.K. or is it just plain weird?
Dear Reader,
This is a question I get a lot! There's a perception that "dating" means going out for sushi or to parties all the time, but really, that's not usually the case. In fact, actual dates can be overrated. What really matters is that you're having fun with your boyfriend -- whether you're studying or just hanging out watching "The Secret Life of The American Teenager."
But, since you've been together for 14 weeks and it sounds like you want to go on a real date, you should make some fun plans for a night out. First step? Let your boyfriend know that you want to go on a date. Anytime you want anything in a relationship, you need to ask for it. No guy is a mind reader. Plus, he'll probably appreciate the fact that you're coming up with some ideas. Suggest a movie you think you'd both like or even an afternoon picnic. Remember that dates don't have to be expensive to be fun!
xxx
Sarah
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Sarah Burningham is the author of BOYOLOGY: A Teen Girl's Crash Course in All Things Boy and HOW TO RAISE YOUR PARENTS: A Teen Girl’s Survival Guide . A teenager at heart, Sarah enjoys a good door slam and stealing her sisters' clothes. She's appeared on the Today Show and speaks to teens at schools, bookstores and libraries around the country. She lives in Queens, New York, and drives a red Vespa.
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its totally ok to nat have been on a date yet.....i was with the man i am married to for 2 and a half years b4 we ever had a date.....and trust me, its perfectly O.K.
Well you would have figuered that he would have wanted to take you on the first date a while back so I realy dk it sounds kinda weird
omg i need HELP... i just moved nd my boyfriend is back home...nd i cant see him no more..nd this guy he goes to my new skoolll lyks mihh....and we kiss nd things...but i told my boyfriend wat i did...nd he broke up wiff mihh..but every day we taxt nd talk on da fone..nd he still say dai I LOVE YOU...nd it dont make no since..plese HELP...
i got dis
You shouldnt worry about that me and my boyfriend of 7 months have only been on like 1 date if you could call it a date but we hang out all the time as long as you two love each other its fine
lyk i been goin out wiff my boy since i was in da 4th grade nd im in da 7th grade now...nd we have never been on a date..but we see eachother every day....so lyk if you guys hang out in skoollll...or on weekends...its fine..its just lyk a date..but its just you in him nd maybe some friends
i got dis
It is fine my fiance and I been going out for 4 years and only gone out like less than 15 times.
MarinaPeralta
ok so i think this guy likes me but im not sure can u gice me a lil help
please
hers a couple things he dose btw hes a pretty good friend of mine
1/today i was at my friends house n she has a pool n he was there n we wer hangin out n i messed up on a dive n for the rest of the day he was joken around wit me n mocking me lolz
2]people behind my friends house the people own deer n me n a couple other grls wer in the back yard n him n his friend wer pettin the deer n he said [my name] come her so i came n he said look at the deer and he didint call anyone else in all the group of girls
3] in the hot tub cuz they have a hot tub i was in there n he was sittinnin a seat n i got in n he asked his sis to move ovr again n he sat nxt to me
well thx thts all i can think of n please answer me
they call me supergrl for a reason!!!!!!
mabye he does???? whats that???? duhhh he likes you..... the only other sign your missing is him punching you in the arm or kicking your feet.... you always ask though... but im telling you all the signs are there.... just dont have sex
Maybe he does but you won't know for sure until you ask. You and a small group of firends should invite him to the movies. Or just write him a note, but you won't know until you ask.
MarinaPeralta
I need some help! How do you tell a guy who is one of your best friends and you've known your whole life that you like him? I really need some help!
By the way he is pretty shy i mean he talks to me but he is not a flirt or anything like that
Really need help
omg me too!
Ricky+Amy=Forever
I think its fine!!! My boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months and we have been out only 1 time!!
But the fact is that he love me and i love him!!
:)Brittany(:
you shouldn't have to worry, no relationship is the same. There is no such thing as a defined pace.
Shaylene