dear sarah,

Your Question: So I've been dating this guy for 6 months and I really liked him at the beginning but now I'm having doubts whether I like him or not due to that he really doesn't pay attention to me and we really don't see each other. He claims that I'm the one that doesn’t have time for him but that's not true. Every time we make plans to go out he's the one that always got something else to do and we end up not seeing each other. Lately, I've been thinking a lot whether I should continue dating him or not. PLEASE HELP ME. I'M CONFUSED!

Sincerely,
Girl with a Confused Heart

Dear Girl with a Confused Heart,
Sometimes uncertainty can drive you crazy! That in-between feeling—when you’re not exactly sure of what you want and you can’t tell what he’s thinking—is almost worse than flat-out heartbreak. But when you’re having doubts about whether or not you like a guy, it means you might not be all that into him, and that’s a good first sign of where your heart is. Don’t worry that you liked him 6 months ago when you first started dating. You’re allowed to change your mind. In fact, that’s why dating and breaking-up go hand in hand. First you like someone, then you get to know him better and you end up either liking him more or not as much. That’s what dating is all about! And if you don’t ever see each other, maybe that’s another sign it’s
time to move on. I’m not saying break-ups are easy. In fact, even when you’re ready for them, they can be hard. But you won’t be in a position to meet the next guy you might really like if you stay with someone you don’t.

xxx
Sarah

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Sarah Burningham is the author of BOYOLOGY: A Teen Girl's Crash Course in All Things Boy and HOW TO RAISE YOUR PARENTS: A Teen Girl’s Survival Guide . A teenager at heart, Sarah enjoys a good door slam and stealing her sisters' clothes. She's appeared on the Today Show and speaks to teens at schools, bookstores and libraries around the country. She lives in Queens, New York, and drives a red Vespa.