advice column is coming

Posted Fri, 01/02/2009 - 15:19 — The Secret Life...

Now you can ask experts for help with all your relationship stuff, from dating to sex to whatever.

So many issues come up around dating, sex, and relationships — especially when you're new to it all, as most teens are. Questions like ... should I? Will we? Can I? Must I? How do I say "no"? It's hard to know when and what and how much to do with your BF/GF. Relax — help is on the way from two trusted sources.

Stay Teen
Last season, you probably saw Stay Teen's thought-provoking blogs and episode-based discussion guides about "The Secret Life of the American Teenager." Stay Teen is all about preventing unwanted teen pregnancies — helping kids have rich teenage lives. We thought their discussion guides were super-helpful, and this season they'll be answering your questions directly, in an all-new weekly advice column. You can check out videos and useful info at Stay Teen's site.

Erika Stalder
Ever seen "The Date Book: A Teen Girl's Complete Guide to Going Out with Someone New"? It helps girls figure out how to ask boys out, get asked out, choose date clothes, deal with curfews, and so on. We're really excited, because Erika Stalder, who literally wrote the book on dating (well, this book, which is awesome), will be answering your dating-etiquette questions this season, right here on abcfamily.com!

Both columns start next week, so send in your questions using this form. It's totally anonymous.

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Sat, 05/23/2009 - 15:29 — summergurly27

okay i need some advice... i moved into my new house about a year ago. I met all of my neighbors except one. I met him about a month ago. It was really weird how we met. My little brother called him and told him that i liked him. My little brother already knew him before me. Lets just call my neighbor bob. so bob told him he already knew that. So my little brother said go out with her. he said no way i dont even no her and i have a girlfriend. Well we started texting and we got to no eachother. I had to go to all of my neighbors houses and sell these stupid raffle tickets and i went to his house. He bought one and was playing outside with my brother i told my parents i had to go around the neighborhood and sell some more. Well bob said to my lil bro lets go wit her. So my lil bro was making fun of him for wanting to go with me.So my lil bro was like so wats ur gf's name and he was like i just broke up with her today and my lil bro was like awww for my sis and he was like i am not gonna answer that lol. so we wnt around my neighborhood and they ditched me. Bob told my lil bro that i was pretty and he only calls girls pretty not hott(awwww how sweet i no lol). Anyways so my lil bro told me and i started screaming inside. i always text him and my lil bro insists that he likes me so i texted him and asked him and he said no haha. i dk about you but i dont see how that is funny. anyways so yesturday my lil bro texted him on his fone my sis wants to no if you wanna go out with her. he said no she doesnt shut up. i really do want to go out with him but i think it is werd to ask a guy out. what should i do? i think he likes me but i am not sure! i only see him every other week cause his parents are divorced. what should i do? he is so amazingly gorges and super sweet. my parents love him and i wanna go out with him so bad! please give me advice soon! oh and he is the most popularest kid at his school. we are the same age and same grade i wanna go to the same hs as him but i dk! plzplz answer soon! thx

Sun, 05/31/2009 - 18:14 — leighleigh563

Look if you like this guy soo much then just ask him out!! It won't be weird and if he is like what you say he's like then he won't have a problem with you asking him out. He is most likely waiting for you to ask him out because he doesn't want to get rejected!

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keileigh paige(:

Thu, 01/08/2009 - 10:20 — stolenandempty

Tue, 01/06/2009 - 19:34 — brittney7887

wias: beeing pregnant as a TEEN made my life hell...and i just had her. i was early

Tue, 01/06/2009 - 07:29 — emmas_mommy

I am 14 years old and I just had my precious baby girl Emma. 10 months ago when I was around 13 and a half, i got raped by a guy I had known for a few months. I thought he was nice... but I only thought of him as a friend and he thought of me in a different way. When I told him this.. he freaked out and raped me.. when I found out I was pregnant I completely freaked out. I was going to go get an abortion right away(even though I didn't want to.) I was just soo scared that people would judge me. And how would I tell my parents? Or my boyfriend. I loved him and didn't want him to dump me. So I was at the abortion clinic, and I saw all these girls in the waiting room looking sooo sad and I was thinking "Why are they sooo sad?" but I was sad too. I was sitting there thinking, " Wait a second why should I kill this baby? I was raped, thats not my fault or the babies fault. That is the guys fault." I was NOT about to kill MY baby because it was concieved through rape, it was still MY baby. I ran out of that abortion clinic crying, horrified at what I was about to do. Even though my baby was never supposed to happen, and she was supposed to be bad thing, that bad situation was turned into a blessing. My parents understood and supported me, my boyfriend who is 17, proposed to me, and we a getting married this June. I got a job at a grocery store.And the guy who raped me, is behind bars.
Don't have sex till you are married, please there is always a chance of a std or hiv. You do 1 thing wrong and your pregnant.
And whatever you do, please, NEVER GET AN ABORTION!!! Your baby really is a blessing. Even if you dont want the baby, over 2 million couples are waiting to adopt on the United States.
If you have any questions on my teen pregnancy, or anything like that, please let me know. I would love to answer them and hopefully help you.
~*~ emmas_mommy~*~

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I would be a virgin if I wasn't raped. I am waiting till I am getting married to have sex by my choice. I am lovin my baby girl Emma.

Tue, 01/06/2009 - 23:19 — jkjkjkjk1

hey i am so sorry about what happened to you and you were thinking right when you didnt kill that baby and god bless you and your baby:)

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 22:31 — brittney7887

hey everyone! my name is brittney. i am 13 years old and i just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. i just wana talk to everybody out there having sex and thinking about having sex to WAIT!! i didnt wait and look where it got me. i DEFONATLY am NOT GUILTY OR ASHAMED of having this baby its just being a teen parent is alot of work. i mean it made my life HELL! my mom kicked me out my boyfriend left me and i ended up living at a teen mom home. but now i am back on track and living with my mom agian. there are still disavandages. i cant go to the mall or out with my friends with out my baby, i wake up in the middle of the night when she is crying to calm her down, and sometimes i dont get any sleep...i mean do you really want this to happen to you? and i know that there are some girls on this site that are pregnant and i am just here to say that if you have any questions or you just wana talk, you can talk to me.

love,
brittney

Thu, 05/28/2009 - 08:26 — soonXtoXbeXteen...

Yeah i agree with you brittney, my life is HELL, Jeremiah has breathing problems and Peyton is always crying. How's Savannah. We need to get back in touch.

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Wed, 01/07/2009 - 21:30 — cheerzchick

Thats freaking awsome that your pregnant and that your not ashamed!! wow are you really 13? hope everything goes great with you!!!!

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Tue, 01/06/2009 - 12:48 — zinaida

hi brittney, i know just how u feel. next time u find out that u r pregnant just come clean about it!!

Tue, 01/06/2009 - 00:54 — wias_ilbkp

Im kinda confused i might have read wrong though this comment says your life was hell cause you had to wake up in the middle of the night and take care of the baby because she was crying but then on your home page it says your pregnant and you due the 18th to a beautiful baby giirl ??but you havent seen her yet??

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 19:11 — fefe219

I really dont think that there is one set reason for ppl dating in high school. Some ppl do it in hopes of of finding their spouse, others might do it because they want to fit in... or just might have found an interesting person that they like to spend time with.

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 16:47 — crazy christian

So this is pretty much a place to ask questions about dating, , and relationships. Even though it hasn't opened yet, I'm going to ask a question that may sound ridiculous... Why do we date at all in high school?What is so attractive about getting dumped and feeling terrible for five months because someone broke your heart? Obviously you want to find the person you will marry someday but very few high school sweethearts actully end up getting married.

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 15:36 — cheerzchick

ooooh this sounds like an awsome idea!!!!!! i cant wait!!!

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I LOVE SECRET LIFE!!! - <3Serena Seychelle<3

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 13:37 — ThE_SeCrEt_Is_OuT

OHHHHH this is goona be great

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"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable." 1st Thessalonians 4:3-4
Do it for him or her!

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 10:42 — ShelBer30

oh wow that is very good. Even tho i have my parents and friends to ask things about but not always they know how to explain it so well to me. Many teens really need something like this to help them through tough times. i just got out of a really tough time and if this was working then and before i decited to do what i did then i knew things be different now and i wouldnt have made those decisions like i did. But im learning from my mistakes that i just made and hoping i can get my life back to the way it was before.

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 10:41 — ShelBer30

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 09:30 — newman5

lol wow cant wait eather even though i know how to hand what im in like them exsept im not getting married at 15 iim yea i wish but not enuff money need to get better job

Mon, 01/05/2009 - 07:04 — Adrinlover

that is going to be so useful to many teens. almost every question about sex is in my head. thx ABCfamily.com!

Sun, 01/04/2009 - 23:14 — LiL MiSs LaDy

cant wait for the advive column... have so many questions

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Sun, 01/04/2009 - 18:25 — BailaRidda

i cant wait to use the advice column

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Sun, 01/04/2009 - 16:38 — polka.dot

im excited for the premiere!

Sun, 01/04/2009 - 11:50 — mwweb11

is any1 out there i really could talk to somebody about this marathon

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Sun, 01/04/2009 - 16:35 — slotatlover08

Yea you can talk to me wut's up?

Sun, 01/04/2009 - 11:48 — blueeyedgirl

I think an advice column is a great idea. I hope it works out. (:

Sun, 01/04/2009 - 06:09 — SecretLifeAdict

This is an awesome idea, i hope it takes off. Teens should be able to communicate about everyday life and not be afraid to ask questions or give personal perspectives. We can all help each other.