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ABC Family: The Secret Life of the American Teenager looking back

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Let’s take a minute and think about everything that’s happened and how it’s changed us. Funerals tend to be a good time for that kind of thing anyway, even though it’s not Dr. Bowman that we’re thinking about here. For right now, let’s think about the love-sex-relationship thing.

Since we first met Amy and Ben and Adrian and Ricky and Grace and Jack (and all their friends and their parents too) a lot has happened. Amy found out she was pregnant after having sex one time with Ricky. Ricky found out he was going to be a father, after a stormy history with his own father. Ben fell in love with Amy and stood by her through the pregnancy and birth of baby John. Grace and Jack were in love and abstinent, then they broke up, then they got back together, then they had sex and now who knows what will happen. Adrian has hooked up with a bunch of guys but may or may not actually love Ricky. Amy’s parents split up, then they slept together, then her mom started dating someone else and now she’s pregnant. Amy’s dad was cheating on her mom with Adrian’s mom, and by the way he used to be married to married Grace’s mom. Now Adrian’s dad is back in the picture. And Ben’s dad, who lost his beloved wife years ago, is now dating again and the woman he’s with may or may not be the prostitute Grace’s brother hired on the internet. Whew!

That’s a lot of love, sex, and relationship stuff to keep up with. It’s also a lot to process and learn from. So, what have you learned? What do you think about the way these charatcers behave and treat each other and how their behavior impacts their lives? Do you see any similarities to your own life or your own relationships or experiences? Are you more like Amy or Adrian or Grace? Do the guys you know tend to act like Ricky or Ben or Jack? What about the parents – do they remind you of any grownups you know? Tell us in the comments! And for more to talk about from this episode check out our discussion guide!

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discuss (84) Comments

mahalamahalamahala's picture

1. i don't like this shows theme song.

2. amy's been really annoying this season. i'm just waiting for someone to finally yell at her and put her in her place.

3. you know amy and ben will break up. and amy and ricky will probably get together. but will it last?

4. i'd kind of like to see some new couples. if grace wasn't greiving, i'd think it'd be cool to see her and adrians "brother" to hook up. but oh well, maybe eventually.

5. i'd like to see ben and amy break up and have amy and ricky get together like everyone predicts. then for ben to find a super nice, sweet girl and have amy realize she's jealous.

6. ricky's gotten really mature this season. amy needs to let him be more involved in johns life.

7. ben wants so badly to be a part of johns life. and i think, if they stay together or eventually if they break up and then get back together (becuase i really think they'll end up together) amy should let him be a part of johns life too. that'd be cute.

8. so many people offer to help amy and she turns them all down. so i'm sick of hearing her complain about how hard it is.

i_l0v3_amy's picture

p.s. AMY LOOKS SOOOOO FREAKING HOTT IN THAT DRESS, I CAN SEE WHY BEN IS DROOLING, I AM TO!!!!!!
and i cant believe she wont have sex with ben, if she uses birth control and a condom, i really doubt she will get pregnant again! it puts ricky so much higher up than ben, and ben already feels bad enoguh!

i_l0v3_amy's picture

i adore this show, even though this show is about so much bad stuff, im really good at handling bad stuff, and if i could i would love to be bens charater, he reminds me of myself, but im not clingy like that, just faithful, and i like loveeeeee amyyyy, and i could totaly handle things better than ben, and i could defeat ricky to i bet!!!!!!!! i would give anything for my life to be the show, like me be ben, but if the show was real.
man, i'd love that!!!!!! i love drama, because im so good at handling it, and im bored without it
TEAM BEN+SOME ONE BETTER+GOOD
AMY+RICKY=BADDDDD
i love you amy, but you dont deserve ben, and ricky dosnt deserve you!

olivia97's picture

This show is awesome! Big smile I can't wait until the next episode, 'Born Free'! Smiling

Olivia Wink

i_l0v3_amy's picture

its on tonightttttttt
i cant waittttt (:

lolli15's picture

Heart eyes Big smile Rick is the hottest one of them all and also the yummyest
ben looks all weak and stuff ewwwwww weird kinda ugly Puzzled

lexi219's picture

i dont get y everyone is in love with ricky ... yes he is good looking but he is a manwhore and got someone pregnant ...now jack is hot! wen he had sex with grace he asked her if she was ok. wen ricky bangs adriene he just leaves like the snake that he is. i <3 jack!

--lexinikole

Elizabeth loves her man's picture

Yeah he Ricky leaves after he has sex with Adriene but she should quit haven sex with him and givin him what he wants. If he loves her than he will respect that. I also think that Ricky wants her but is afraid of commentment and bein with jus one person.

I LOVE MY DAUGHTER AND MAN!!!

Kerynnoo7's picture

Oh, I SOO agree with you. I don't know why these girls are chasing him. He's just a 'hit n' quit it' kinda guy. Whether or not he has a past with his own father that screwed him over for life, he needs to work out what's going on in his head...or pants. And maybe the baby, John, will help him grow up.

"All you need is LOVE"

lexi219's picture

hah im going to be a sophmore too and THERE IS this much dramam in my skool if not more lol and CHEERGIRL003 maybe something went wrong when jack and grace had sex even if u havev a condum on u can still get pregnant cause he could have put it on wrong. i doubt it but u nv no

--lexinikole <3

allie19's picture

i don't know why, but Ben reminds me of a turtle. Yep. An annoying, horny, turtle. A turtle provoking people to strangle him. or, at least, beat the crap out of him. he's just so annoying. i'm kind of glad he'll be leaving for the summer. Horny prick.

normroxmysox's picture

Amy's boobs are freakin half out. what the heck why doesn'y she just not where a shirt at all! It is digusting

God's Girl : )

i_l0v3_amy's picture

omg i wish, amy is like the hottest girl on the planet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kamfisbamf's picture

In this picture Adrian looks modest compared to Amy. She needs to put some clothes on..

cheergirl003's picture

grace kinda looks pregnant in that picture and shes nott

~i love golden girls~

channaasmaro's picture

RICKY IS HOT AND I LOVE HIM!<3
HE IS AMAZINGLY YUMMILYYYYY.
WOW, I AM ADORED Smiling :) Smiling :) Smiling
MMMMMM,,,RICKYYYY<33333333
SEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXIII

channa asmaro

leah2186's picture

Look at Molly Ringwald (Anne) on the cover of Fit Pregnancy! She's so pretty!

~Proud mommy of Xavier Sebastian, born 8/13/08~

Ricky to Amy- "When everything else is bad in our lives, at least we've got him."

Olivia4171997's picture

Has any one noticed Amy is always next to Ricky, but not alway next to ben?

normroxmysox's picture

I the picture doesn't it look like grace is prego????? I hope she isn't there are too many prego people in this freakin show.

God's Girl : )

dark_sisy's picture

ok first of all i love this show. i love this show because it is showing teenagers to think before they make wrong desicions.

second...everyone is saying that amy isnt acting like a real teenage mother. i disagree. theres no way to pin point a "Real" teenage mother. everyone acts differant. and to me, she is acting like one. shes complaining about having "no life" and not being able to do anything. if she didnt want that to happen, she shouldnt have had sex.

dark_sisy's picture

ok first of all i love this show. i love this show because it is showing teenagers to think before they make wrong desicions.

second...everyone is saying that amy isnt acting like a real teenage mother. i disagree. theres no way to pin point a "Real" teenage mother. everyone acts differant. and to me, she is acting like one. shes complaining about having "no life" and not being able to do anything. if she didnt want that to happen, she shouldnt have had sex.

wilford97's picture

What is Amy wearing that is not what teens need to be wearing!!!! Sad Sad Sad Sad

magen wilford

amberifan6033's picture

this has nothing to do with this conversation but do not put any personal stuff on your profile cause if you do the someone canclick on your profile and see your zip code birthday and your name so dont if you have just fill in the line with x's .

AMBERIFAN STANDS FOR AMY BEN AND RICKY FAN

samanthalea's picture

It looks like shes got on some werid [filtered word] trench coat $hit.

SAM-*

samanthalea's picture

Ok. YOU need to chill. Yeah we arent stupid...we know this is a show..we know it isnt real..but we are all fans of the show..& have our favorite & least favorite people...& have what we want to happen..& what we dont..and who we want with who and everything. We are just saying what we want about it. Duh the the show aint real. We are all just really into it....& everything..nothing wrong with that.

SAM-*

archie4ever's picture

Btw what is amy wearing in this pic?!

als327's picture

Big smile WOW!! It really amazes me to read all these posts. It is a television show, Amy, Ricky,Jack,Grace, Adrian, and Ben are all ACTING!!! They are doing what is in the script!! The show has writers, producers, directors. So many of you seem to think it is real and are getting all upset, and making comments about,how much of a little b@$%h amy is being. It's not real, she is doing her job, they all are, and they are doing a great job with it. Come back to reality people, and realize the show is for ENTERTAINMENT purposes, not for you to get all bent out of shape, because you think Amy and Ricky should be together,or that Adrian should stop having sex. Do any of you write scripts for television?? If you think you can write a better script, have at it, but doubt it would be as good as the ones who created the show.

berribug00's picture

wow we all know its not real lol and fyi you commented too now hahaha(:

♥♥Ricky&Amy♥♥Jack&Grace♥♥
"god please help adrian because shes a b|tch!"

i_love_secret_life's picture

we said amy was a [filtered word], not shailene woodley... chill

Secret Life Obsessed!

Secret_Life_'s picture

I want Amy and Ricky to be couple! Most viewers do! Grace needs to stop being a brat! She needs to get over it! Anne should really get her tubes tied or something. Adrian needs to STOP having sex or else she will end up pregnant too!

Amy+Ricky+John=Happy Family Forever <3

rknluvssecretlife's picture

i agree with everything u said exept on anne
its not the writer's fault cus molly ringwald is pregnant with twins in real life

amy and ricky 4 ever<3

archie4ever's picture

ok, i have always loved this show, but this season, not so much. its just getting so unrealistiv how everything just coincidentally happens all the time, and how everything happens within just this one small group of people. And also, teens are not so obsessed with talking about sex! I swear thats pretty much all they ever talk about! That, Graces dad, and John. SO unrealistic. O and one more thing, I dont think teen moms are like amy at all in real life. She yells at everyone trying to help her with John, and when I watch real shows like 16 and pregnant, its the exact opposite of amy. overall, this show is just getting really hard to believe-its so unrealistic sometimes.

i_love_secret_life's picture

I AGREE WITH YOU EXACTLY! im watching 16 and pregnant right now and they are all nice about it... amy? not so much.

Secret Life Obsessed!

Secret_Life_'s picture

Okay you need to chill. Its a show! Amy just got done having a baby at 15. She is hormonal! She will get over it. If it really bothers then don't watch the show!! Jeez!

Amy+Ricky+John=Happy Family Forever <3

i_love_secret_life's picture

Secret Life will always be my favorite show, but Amy is being a freakin [filtered word]!
I know she's a teenage mother and all but really, I know teenage moms that aren't bitchy.
She was my favorite and now she's like my least.

Secret Life Obsessed!

secret13's picture

i am most like amy but i know graces and adrians and most of the boys i know are mostly like ricky i know one who is a lot like ben but mostly the guys i know are like ricky!!!!! and yea why isn't baby john in the picture??? he is now part of " the secret life of the american teenager" cast now....

Amy+Ricky= 4ever
Ricky<33333
Hi John, daddy's here, I love you. - ricky
I may not love anyone else but i love my son.- ricky

samanthalea's picture

Ok. to all you people who think friggin amy & ricky 4ever seriously need to wake up. amy & ricky? seriously ok first off if they were ment to be together im pretty sure it would of happened by now...
amy & ben. yeah ben is a stupid horny teenager & just needs to go away but whatever he needs to be with amy. its adrian & ricky! duhh the hot people have to stick together as a couple! & for real ben & adrian NOTHING IS GOING TO HAPPPEN THERE! ben cant handle a girl like adrian...hes so lame & knows nothing about anything..i mean hes asking ricky for sex advice how cute..

SAM-*

yyyy's picture

yeh i agree that ben and adrian DO NOT GO GOOD TOGETHER and BEN AND AMY ARE THE PERFECT COUPLE so to all of you people out there who want amy and ricky to be together just shut up its not going to happen and yeh i agree with you that if amy and ricky were meant to be together that it MOST DEFINITELY would have happend by now so just SHUT UP.

kamfisbamf's picture

I sooo agree with you Smiling

Kay062294's picture

Ben is to wearing blue his tshirt is blue....

*Kay*

iglowinthedark's picture

hahaha in the picyure everyone is wearing blue eept for ben haha that just shows how much ppl dont like him Big smile

Flying cheez-it monster!!!

kamfisbamf's picture

Ken's shirt is blue, and lots of people like Ben.. and Megan's shirt is an indigo/violet..

yyyy's picture

shut up alot of people love him his is very popular

Mrs.Jonas93's picture

Yeah this picture shows the couples standing next to the person they're supposed to be with Smiling

Amy and Ricky!!!!!!!!!!! Heart eyes Heart eyes Heart eyes Big smile

Ben with Adrian and Jack with Grace!

~Peace~Love~Jonas~

kamfisbamf's picture

But Ricky and Adrian are in love with each other, even if they both say they're just [filtered word] buddies..

yyyy's picture

NO AMY AND RICKY RICKY IS STUPID

emilychica1027's picture

ah-greed! ricky is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo sex driven.

~Live 4 Dancing~

hurleygirlie2120's picture

adrian is the only one smiling..
wierd
idon'tknow..
yeah.
go amy&ricky;]

yyyy's picture

SHUT UP

xamano's picture

Wow what are you, 12? Learn to deal with the fact that people have opinions different than you, and you aren't going to change them by pitching a fit at anyone who thinks differently than you.