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ABC Family: The Secret Life of the American Teenager poll results: blaming grace

poll results: blaming grace

poll results: blaming grace

See how many think Grace is/may be "responsible for her dad's death."

No question that Marshall Bowman's sudden, tragic death has been the biggest news so far this season on "The Secret Life of The American Teenager." And part of what makes it so hard to handle is the way Grace reacted. She's convinced that disobeying her dad and having sex with Jack caused Marshall to die. Tom agreed.

We asked you last week what you thought. Lots of people voted, and you may be surprised by the results. Four out of five of you (82%) voted no, she's not responsible. About one in every 12 voters (8%) said yes, she is responsible. And one in 10 voters (10%) were not sure.

Which means that one in five fans who took this poll believe Grace did kill or may have killed her dad by having sex.

OK, fans ... what do you think about that?

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Oria12's picture

i dont think grac ekilled her dadbecause she didnt do anything she was just mad at him and God didnt want her punished by her dad when she

southernchick48's picture

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Obviously she's not responsible. Even religiously it's not logic, because if God were to punish Grace for sinning, why would it be through Marshall dying? Through that not only would Grace be punished but so is Kathleen and Tom.

Anyway. Emotionally Grace is going through a ton right now. Obviously she's not thinking straight and obviously she's been saying some things that she normally wouldn't be saying to people, for example, telling Jack he's a killer (or helped kill her dad) and telling Amy that John was a punishment. It's all part of the grieving process some people go through when they lose someone close, they try to find a reason for it and the reason Grace thinks she's found for her father's death is her having great sex.

Basically, Grace will be able to get past this. And as time goes on Grace will be able to realize that she did NOT kill her father. Nothing anyone says to her right now can convince her that she didn't kill her father. Grace will have to realize this on her own pace, but she will realize it someday. And Tom certainly isn't making her feel any better about it.

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rosetop12891's picture

People closest to me and who know me the best inform me quite frequently that I'm too [filtered word] myself. I refute this particular criticism by knowing that I'm merely able to take responsibility for myself, my actions, my crimes, my transgressions, my sins...I also consider this characteristic humbling. Grace is indeed being hypocritical, narrow-minded, and absolutely absurd; her rationale is cringe-worthy, as she again and again, spits out how much she enjoyed having sex. But on the other hand, a deeper, more vulnerable, more raw, tougher Grace is developing, and I admire that. She's growing up. She's stubborn, just as I am, and always putting up a retort to any repeated logic. Her image was unrealistic and too unrelatable to originally. I think Grace and Ben are gonna be the ones to end up together too, fyi. From what I've seen, they're the most compatible. This Ben and Adrian poppycock, is just that...poppycock! Ew!

cintawinta's picture

I THINK SHE GRACES IS FEELING BAD RIGHT NOW BUT OVER TIME SHE WILL GET OVER IT!

JoBroGirl's picture

It's not her fault, and I feel so bad for her Crying

twilightxaddictt's picture

no she didnt kill her father!! he would have gone on that plane anyways

tryingtimes117's picture

"I doubt God punishes people nearly as much as people punish eachother and themselves"
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pennfan2's picture

I agree! she is way to mean to herself! sure she have waited until she was married or engaged or so, but God would not kill as a punishment! Puzzled

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berribug00's picture

nobody's responsible, things always happen for a reason,no matter how small, but almost always we will never know what that reason is Smiling

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leah2186's picture

I think shes going through alot of emotions. I lost my 16 year old brother 4 years ago. I went through alot of guilt that maybe i could ve stopped it somehow. Its just her way of grieving. Its sooo hard to loose someone so close. Now my 11month old son wont have an Uncle and it killes me! My brothers name was Shawn Nipper 1/23/89-11/26/05. me and my mom was on 20/20 right after it happened and about a year later we were on The Montell Williams show in NY about my brother. I understand what Grace is feeling.

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leah2186's picture

I think shes going through alot of emotions. I lost my 16 year old brother 4 years ago. I went through alot of guilt that maybe i could ve stopped it somehow. Its just her way of grieving. Its sooo hard to loose someone so close. Now my 11month old son wont have an Uncle and it killes me! My brothers name was Shawn Nipper 1/23/89-11/26/05. me and my mom was on 20/20 right after it happened and about a year later we were on The Montell Williams show in NY about my brother. I understand what Grace is feeling.

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xxk6204kxx's picture

ok so we know anne's baby isn't her boyfriend davids....IF george didnt get fixed or it didnt work it could be his ...BUT it could also be the guy anne slept with that she ran into at the airport in chicago that she knew from high school...to get back at george...that she told george bout after they slept together....and whats with amy being so bitchy to ashley....still hope it george's baby though
IT'S NOT GRACE FAULT OR JACKS OR ADRIAN THINGS HAPPEN AND IN NO WAY IS IT ANYONES FAULT FOR WHAT HAPPENED TO GRACES DAD

alitha's picture

wow. she is really upset so she is saying that. she DID NOT kill her dad.
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livelaughlove_'s picture

There is NO way Grace was responsible for what happened to her father. She's just being supersticious, but she's in a lot of pain right now, and we can't really blame her for the way she has been acting towards herself and other people. She definately did NOT kill her dad. She's just blaming herself because that's the way she's dealing with all of the pain inside. She does feel guilty, but this is one way of dealing with her dad's death. I hope she realizes that it wasn't her fault, and I hope her and Jack stay together for a long time.

ilovedyer1233's picture

grace doesn't need to blame herself. Neither does Jack or Adrian. It wasn't any of them. It was just plane faultys.

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GABBY VIGIL's picture

NOT TO SOUND LIKE A [filtered word] BUT HEY YOU SAY [filtered word] LIKE ITS A BAD THING!!! Sticking out tongue ANY WAY I THINK ITS STUPID THAT GRACE BLAME HERSELF, YOU GOTTA BREAK FREE ONCE AND A WHILE!!!

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koko3396338's picture

I think grace is making a big deal about it. I know why she feels sad so would I but i would never blame my self for my father death. Sad I hope she can get it together and start hanging out with her friends and jack again!! Smiling

iloveerickyunderwood3's picture

its not her fault. but if i were here, i'd feel the exact same way as she does.

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ToXic_LoVe's picture

haha omg wait!! did Ricky & Amy acutally say that to each other??? >>
Ricky: "Amy. I'm interested in Amy."
Amy: "When someone likes you, you can't really help but like them back."
If so..what episode????? haha sorry I'm a crazy Amy&Ricky fan.

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ToXic_LoVe's picture

Grace is just being supersticious, but I don't blame her, because If I were in her position I would definitly feel the same way. What's really sad though is that she's blaming Jack for the sex that they had..she said that she only had sex, because Jack asked her to, but really it was her who wanted to have sex that night. In the last episode..it seemed like Ricky really cared for Grace because she's his friend and all..he's changing! awwwhhhhh Smiling but bad boy Ricky is also pretty sexy Sticking out tongue

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l0kkita's picture

I t0tally agree , Grace iz just in shock because wen sum 1 u luv dies it a big shocker and ur just blaming the whole world and in this case grace think she killed him. But it just be cuz she in shock rite now. And anywayz god never kill some one to punish them for their bad action. But i am pretty sure grace will get out of her shock moment and then relize it wasent her fault her dad died and get bakk with jack =]

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vpflys's picture

I think Grace is just in shock right now. Once she comes to her senses and gets over her dad's death, she will think more clearly and realize that she did not cause her father to die. She is just in an initial state of shock.

fruiteexo3's picture

Grace is just not in her right mind. Really, did your dad even know that you were disobeying him and having sex while he was in his private jet plane? Yeah, sure, God did but God wouldn't kill off a person's father just because she was having sex. Like Ricky said, sex and death are NOT related! They are not intertwined in any way. And besides, it was an ACCIDENT, an unexpected plane crash. Have you ever heard of coincidence, Grace? Apparently not. Don't worry, once Grace gets out of her naive delusions, she'll realize that it had nothing to do with her having incredible sex with Jack. And if she never does, what a great pitiful shame.

kylexylover122's picture

That is rediculous. Someone I know had sex before marriage and without birth control pills. There father and mother are still a live and there not pregnant.

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SecretLifeLover711's picture

Grace why would you think you killed your own father. Sex is a thing that just comes it`s fun for some people but one thing everyone knows is sex will never do harm to anyone!

SecretLifeLover711's picture

Grace why would you think you killed your own father. Sex is a thing that just comes it`s fun for some people but one thing everyone knows is sex will never do harm to anyone!

beckabooh's picture

OMG! Grace is not responcible for the death of marshal. If that was so then there would be like no dads in the world because of all the teens doing it. Now beside the point of grace is innocent......Adrian is not responcible either! Its all just getting to there heads!

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ariel2016love's picture

I dnt think tht grace killed he farther becuz i dnt know all the details but i hope the bowman family has no more proplems . She just made a bad chose.RIP Dr. Bowman

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i dont think she killed him it was an accident it just happened at the wrong time

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katy_jo's picture

duh grace didnt kill her dad! if god killed the parent of every teenager who has sex against their parents wishes, there would be lots of parentless teenagers out there! and grace knows he doesnt punish everyone, so what makes her so special?

wilford97's picture

Grace did NOT KILL HER DAD!! Just because Grace and Jack had sex ok her dad told her not to but I say rules are meant to be broken. Grace suck it up and put your big girl panties on!!!!! GOSH!!! Big cry TO (Smiling

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Punk_princess22's picture

Haha that's funny and i ttly agree with u!!!! Grace needs to just get over it she kno's she did not do it... and im thnkful for Ricky gettin her butt out of the car!!!!! Tht wuld hve been messed up if she missed her own dad's funeral!!!!): That was sweet of Ricky!!! Angel

vbqueen93's picture

Grace is NOT responsible for her dad's death. The two events arent even related. It is unfortunate for her dad to die but the two arent connected.

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ricky-lover45's picture

i think it is studpid grace did not kill her dad and i do bilevin in god but god would not kill someone becuase grace had sex Crying Crying Crying

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ashl.617's picture

Jack and Grace should deffinatley be together. They do really love eachother, and they always have. They will get through this together i just know it. And the whole school should deffinatley not be talking about them having sex, and not only sex but great sex and her thinking it killed her father. NO ONE KILLED MARSHAL BOWMAN!!!!!!!!! Marshal died in an airplane accident and i dont get why everyone is blaming everyone else for the death of Marshal Bowman. And no one should be saying Grace needs to get over it! If any of you have suffered a death of someone that is so close to you and you did something they didnt want you to do and never got to apologize for it you would know that you wont just get over it. You never will but one day you will find something to make you just set it aside and go on. Just give her time and she will be fine

Chassy_Baker's picture

That's just stupid! If those one in five really think that God will punish Grace by KILLING her Dad just for having sex then I want nothing to do with THEIR God! Because my God wouldn't do that. How could they even think that? Mad

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nickgndg2222's picture

i think that it's bull cuz if god blamed everyone for having sex in highschool the world would be filled with problems

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alizzila's picture

I really liked Anne's comment to Amy, something like "I don't believe God punishes us nearly as much as we punish ourselves." I thought that was gold.

xmaryyyyy's picture

i agreee Smiling

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xox333xox's picture

It is ridiculous! God would never do that take someone elses life because of anothers mistake! she is not responsible!

SeCrEt.LiFe.FaN.'s picture

no thats ridiculous!! there is no way that she is responsible!

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