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Posted Mon, 08/17/2009 - 17:31 — The Secret Life...
Does what happens in Bologna stay in Bologna?
We have one big fat question on our minds about this week's "Secret Life of The American Teenager": What the heck did that mysterious postcard from Italy say, and more important, who sent it?
Ben always seemed like the perfect boyfriend ... sweet, charming, and, best of all, way more honest than tricky Ricky. Right?
So what's with all the secrecy now? Are some things really just better left unsaid, "Don't ask, don't tell"-style? But if Amy finds out Ben's keeping something from her, you can bet she'll have a hard time trusting him ever again.
But did he, or didn't he? Just what happened in Italy that's got Ben so jittery, and is it about to follow him home? Worst of all, did he actually lose his virginity with someone who wasn't his girlfriend?
Could the perfectly honest boyfriend be not-so-perfect anymore? If we can't trust Ben Boykewich, who CAN we trust? What do you think Ben got up to in Italy? Do you think he was entitled to have some fun after a whole school year of being Mr. Nice?
What did Ben do in Italy?
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Ben is definately hiding what happened in italy, i for sure know he found a girl that he is into, but i'm not 100% sure if they had sex, but if he's not worried about having sex with amy anymore then he probably did, then again, if he did start having sex he would want more sex which he isnt talking about....so i'm unsure if he did have sex in bolonga but one thing i do know is he learned how to be really sneaky...lol
I bet ben went to bolona and banged every girls he could get his hands on.
he been oressing amy to have sex with him since the begging of the season and then after bolona he wants to do stuff as a family and he does not even want to have sex with her anymore because had as much as he needed in bolona.He needs to just come clean to amy before she finds out somewhere else.
Peace Love and Happiness
i think ricky should go back to therapy and stop having sex with every girl her can get his hands on.
I seriously don't understand why people hate Ben. He's perfect. YES, HE IS! All sane women want a guy like that for a husband. All you "Ben Haters" obviously need therapy for not being able to see what a great catch Ben is.
Ben+Amy=true
Even if ben wasn't cheating on her(which i think he was) amy has the right to know. i mean if i were ben and i did cheat on her i would tell her that for amy deserves respect just like all of us that doesn't include being lied to. plus i would have rather do that than lie to her in the eye. i mean even if ben cheated on amy, amy can still forgive him and take him back as long as he doesn't do it again. but only if ben tells the truth .
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could you imagine if ben has really cheated on her, after how honest hes been about everything in the past, and how many times hes been reassuring everyone that nothing happened. unfortunately i think bens been lying, especially after he looked so worried about what was in the card, and once amy finds out they will be over. i think ricky will be there to catch her once this happens and something is bound to happen between them!!
Even if ben wasn't cheating on her(which i think he was) amy has the right to know. i mean if i were ben and i did cheat on her i would tell her that for amy deserves respect just like all of us that doesn't include being lied to. plus i would have rather do that than lie to her in the eye. i mean even if ben cheated on amy, amy can still forgive him and take him back as long as he doesn't do it again. but only if ben tells the truth .
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I love Adrien but she has to understand that Ricky and Amy are brought together now by their son. And they are going to have a bond that her and Ricky will never have.
In less Adrien gets pregnant with ricky's baby too
lmao-
but even then Ricky will always feel differently about Amy because she's the mother of his first child.
~>BossLadii<~
Amy definately has a right to know what ben did while he was away. The way i see it if Ben didnt do anything wroong whats the big secret???? I mean really what do you have to hide.
~>BossLadii<~
amy totally has a right to know what ben did in italy! they wer almost married!!!!!
amy realy is going through *a lot* and she mite be depressed. and i think she should be with ricky not ben. ricky can give her things that ben could never give her. and i also think that amy likes ricky and i think ricky likes amy but he doesnt know it. i mean he stood up for amy to adrian, he gives her money for the baby, and so much more that i think people overlook (and i know you all think im crazy but idc lol). if amy had the right support she could get through this. and i ben can give that support i think ricky can. if ricky changed his ways he would be amazing. and i know ppl think amy is being a real b!tch and she is but she needs more support.
AMY+RICKY
cappie<3casey
amy<3ricky=john<3love
ashley<3griffen
I could not disagree with you more.Amy and Ben need to be together.Amy will never find someone that loves her more than ben does. Ricky had his chance to persue Amy the right way at Band camp but instead he took advantage of her. As far as his dudies as a father goes. he had no choice but ti get a job and support his child.i truely feel that Ricky is more suit for Adrien because they play the same game, they're both on each othere's level.Amy cant keep up with Ricky, especially now.!
~>BossLadii<~
I couldn't disagree with YOU more.
1) Amy and Ben don't need to be together. What do you mean? Ben isn't the only boy in the world, and he's certainly not a perfect boyfriend.. to me, he isn't even a good one. For one thing, if he REALLY loved her as much as he claims, he wouldn't of cheated on her, and please don't say that he didn't, because it's obvious that he did.
2) Ricky and Amy BOTH made a mistake at band camp, it definitely wasn't only Ricky's fault. Amy could of stopped him, but she was naive and didn't realize what was happening. Both of them are equally responsible for being stupid at band camp.
3) Ricky did NOT have to step up and decide to get a job and support his child. He did it out of CHOICE, he WANTED to be there for John and for Amy. He stepped up and changed some of his ways for the good of his son because he isn't shallow and he has a heart.
4) You're right, Adrian and Ricky both are on the same level. Which is absolutely why they shouldn't be together. Since Ricky had a horrible childhood he is sex obsessive, he goes to sex for solutions for anything. Even when there's nothing wrong, he wants to have sex. Each time he has sex, especially with Adrian, since she basically never says no, he knows he can get it whenever he wants, so he DOES get it whenever he wants, which isn't good for him. He has a lot of issues to work on, and having sex with Adrian will not help him one bit. Adrian is obsessive, b!tchy, jealous, mistrustful, disrespectful, annoying, clingy, and rude when she's with Ricky. To me, both of them are better people when they aren't together.
5) Ricky doesn't act the way he does with Adrian when he's with Amy. He has a soft spot for her, and she has a soft spot for him. They DO care about each other, believe it or not. I'm not saying they're in love with each other, all I'm saying is that they have an unbreakable bond and chemistry. Unlike anyone else, Ricky has the ability to calm Amy down, and since Amy's the mother of Ricky's child, he acts differently around her. He doesn't want to get on her bad side. Maybe Amy can't keep up with him right now, but they will always have a connection, and years will go on, who knows what will happen.
Sure, Ben is not the only boy in the world. BUT he's the only boy in the world for Amy because he is her true love. And Ben HAS been the perfect boyfriend until now that there is suspicion of him cheating. But, unlike you, I LOVE Ben and therefore I will give him the benefit of the doubt until it's been confirmed. I know, you don't agree. It's okay.
Ben+Amy=true
I don't even have to argue with that because there's really no point haha, you know what I'll say
amy totally has a right to know what ben did in italy! they wer almost married!!!!!
amy realy is going through *a lot* and she mite be depressed. and i think she should be with ricky not ben. ricky can give her things that ben could never give her. and i also think that amy likes ricky and i think ricky likes amy but he doesnt know it. i mean he stood up for amy to adrian, he gives her money for the baby, and so much more that i think people overlook (and i know you all think im crazy but idc lol). if amy had the right support she could get through this. and i ben can give that support i think ricky can. if ricky changed his ways he would be amazing. and i know ppl think amy is being a real b!tch and she is but she needs more support.
AMY+RICKY
cappie<3casey
amy<3ricky=john<3love
ashley<3griffen
amy totally has a right to know what ben did in italy! they wer almost married!!!!!
amy realy is going through *a lot* and she mite be depressed. and i think she should be with ricky not ben. ricky can give her things that ben could never give her. and i also think that amy likes ricky and i think ricky likes amy but he doesnt know it. i mean he stood up for amy to adrian, he gives her money for the baby, and so much more that i think people overlook (and i know you all think im crazy but idc lol). if amy had the right support she could get through this. and i ben can give that support i think ricky can. if ricky changed his ways he would be amazing. and i know ppl think amy is being a real b!tch and she is but she needs more support.
AMY+RICKY
cappie<3casey
amy<3ricky=john<3love
ashley<3griffen
amy totally has a right to know what ben did in italy! they wer almost married!!!!!
amy realy is going through *a lot* and she mite be depressed. and i think she should be with ricky not ben. ricky can give her things that ben could never give her. and i also think that amy likes ricky and i think ricky likes amy but he doesnt know it. i mean he stood up for amy to adrian, he gives her money for the baby, and so much more that i think people overlook (and i know you all think im crazy but idc lol). if amy had the right support she could get through this. and i ben can give that support i think ricky can. if ricky changed his ways he would be amazing. and i know ppl think amy is being a real b!tch and she is but she needs more support.
AMY+RICKY
cappie<3casey
amy<3ricky=john<3love
ashley<3griffen
amy totally has a right to know what ben did in italy! they wer almost married!!!!!
amy realy is going through *a lot* and she mite be depressed. and i think she should be with ricky not ben. ricky can give her things that ben could never give her. and i also think that amy likes ricky and i think ricky likes amy but he doesnt know it. i mean he stood up for amy to adrian, he gives her money for the baby, and so much more that i think people overlook (and i know you all think im crazy but idc lol). if amy had the right support she could get through this. and i ben can give that support i think ricky can. if ricky changed his ways he would be amazing. and i know ppl think amy is being a real b!tch and she is but she needs more support.
AMY+RICKY
cappie<3casey
amy<3ricky=john<3love
ashley<3griffen
People shud be happy that Amy has a good guy like Ben in her and Johns life. Ben has not cheated on Amy so why do you ppl continue to dislike him. Why do ppl who dislike Ben continue to make childish and ridiculous comments. We know you don't want Ben and Amy together, the show is not based on your wants.
I wud suggest Cartoon network!
Amy and Ricky are not and hopefully will never become a couple. Ricky needs to continue to work on his issues.
Ben haters what's the point of yall making senseless comments.
Agreed!
Ben+Amy=true
I agree completely.Any girl would be lucky to have a guy like Ben........the thing about Ben is that he's a gentilmen and if you cant respect that then there's a problem with you.After everything was said and done as far as Amy's pregnantcy Ben was still there......i dont know anyone that mature and honest loving
~>BossLadii<~
Ben has not cheated on Amy so why do you ppl continue to dislike. Why do you ppl continue to make childish and ridiculous comments. We know you don't want Ben and Amy together, the show is not based on your wants. Cartoon network is on!!
Amy and Ricky are not and hopefully will never become a couple.
I think that Amy and Ricky should be together in the end, because Ben is trying to be the "Daddy" and in previous episodes he even told Amy that he wanted Ricky to have no part in the baby(now John's) life, and he said he would pay for anything the baby needs(Until Leo interjected) and Ben hasn't done anything.
Ricky's being the man here.
I think Ben and Adrianne belong together.
Ben is such a jerk just because Amy doesent want to have sex and she dosent wanna take the chance of gettin pregnant AGAIN and ben should respect tht and not run off to other girls and have sex ben and amy do not belong together ben and heather or adriane belong amy and ricky need to be 2gether to raise their baby boy!
*Harley's Lover 4 life*
Ben+Amy=true
i hope Ben found someone in Italy...Amy is too controlling and is mean to Ben all the time since she had the baby...and just bc she has John that doesnt give her an excuse to be like that to him...Amy just needs to be alone I hope Ricky never goes back with her either he belongs with Adrian and he just needs to straighten his emotions out and stop cheating
Linds
I wish all you "Ben Haters" would disappear. You are ruining this great show for the true fans. You know, the ones who like the show just the way it is and aren't trying to change it. You people wouldn't recognize a perfect man if he bit you in the butt. GO AWAY!!!!
Brenda Hampton, keep up the good work and please don't listen to those fake fans. Us true fans will always support you. THE SECRET LIFE OF THE AMERICAN TEENAGER RULES!!!!
Ben+Amy=true
Secret Life does rule! It's awesome! And Ben haters are true fans too.
There's nothing wrong with not liking a character in a show. Some people love him, some people hate him, oh well, big deal. We Ben haters LOVE the show too, but we just don't love Ben ;D And we aren't trying to change the show.. well, because we can't, haha. We just have opinions and like to express them, just like you have opinions and are expressing them right now 
Well, thank the Lord that you delusional Ricky/Amy fans can't change the show. Otherwise, I wouldn't be a fan anymore. Thank the Lord for you, smart and amazing Brenda Hampton!
Ben+Amy=true
Haha, I would never try to change the show. I really do love it the way it is right now! It has tons of drama and that's great. I just like to express my opinion about the characters.. I don't think it's necessary to hate on Ricky/Amy fans and say we're delusional.. I don't think I ever said that to you
I think having different opinions is awesome, we both obviously have pretty good reasons why we like the things we like. 
I mean no disrespect to you but I can't help but take it personally. I have my reasons: my BFF's hellish encounter with a "Ricky". I know it's just a show but shows are sometimes based on real life.
By the way, I think you're way more mature than I am in how you're handling my rudeness.
Ben+Amy=true
Yeah, the show is REALLY realistic about the characters, and yes, Ricky was a horrible one until he changed. He still has a ton of issues but he's in progress, I think he should go back to his shrink.
LOL, it wasn't really rude, I can see how people can take things personally while watching the show. You were just stating your opinion, I didn't really find it rude haha. 
ok i think in mondays episode the new girl who comes in with red hair is the girl ben slept with in italy idk he seems like hes known her and they have a bond i really want to c amy and ben break up i think ricky and amy should start dateing
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hes hiding his guilt.and hes not telling anybody what happened over at italy
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and one more.
grace:
okay. jack's cheated on her before. and she knows he's also cheated on shawna. and she basicly just told him she didn't care if he did anything with madison over the summer, and she still wants to be with him. since when do people not care if their boyfriend cheats on them?! that just signals you have no self respect. if she just keeps letting this stuff go, he's just gonna cheat on her again. and again. and again. it wouldn't be that unexpected. he's cheated three times already. and it's only been one year on the show!
okay, i was really disappointed with everyone in this episode.
betty and leo:
before ben left for italy they had a big discussion with him about being honest in a relationship and how important it is. now they're telling him to keep it secret and never tell her. what's with that? if i cheated on someone i was dating, i would just feel weird. i would feel like a liar, i just wouldn't be happy in a relationship like that. and i think anyone who can cheat without a second thought about it (like ben obviously), just isn't an honest person. they're not bad people, they just can't be trusted.
anne:
okay, we all know amy's been having a HUGE attitude problem this season. i know she's a teen mom but that doesn't give her the right to be disrespectful to everyone. last season when ashley was still in middle school and she was the one with the attitude, anne had this big talk with her about how that behavior wasn't allowed in their house or anywhere. amy's acting ten times worse than ashley was and anne hasn't said anything. i can't even imagine letting my kids talk to me like that. and how embarassing would it be if you found out your kid was telling off the school councelor for no legitimate reason at all?! i'd probably beat them. i can't believe anne is just letting her act like this, she's being an immature b!tch and it's only getting worse.
adrian and amy:
the only reason adrian is mad at amy is because she's jealous and she's worried rickys gonna chose amy over her. and amy isn't helping herself. if she would just be generally nice to adrian and try to be the better person, adrian would cool off. but amy's being just as bad as adrian. i realise adrian started it, but both of them can finish it and amy's just being really immature about all of this. adrians just a b!tch tp amy, she makes me frustrated. but she's always been like this. amy's attitude has gotten WAY out of hand.
george and ben:
okay, why is everyone so supportive of amy's little mishap with the councelor/football coach? he did nothing wrong. amy shoudn't have called adrian a [filtered word]. i know adrians not the nicest person in the world but amy went in to the conversation in a bad mood and she came out of the conversation in a bad mood. she didn't try to fix things with adrian and that's really immature. i wouldn't have wanted to appoligise to amy either. she was being a b!tch. then she blew up at the councelor about nothing at all. she was just being generally disrespectful and he didn't even so anything! she just feels like she's on top of the world and she can do anything she wants. she needs to be brought down a peg or two but everyone's in support of her. i just don't get it. later in life, this whole "i think i'm better than everyone because i'm a teen mom so i'm smarter and i can talk to you however i want and if you get upset than you're just predjudice and i don't want to work relationships out with people, they should all just appoligise to me because i'm practicly a goddess" routine is gonna come back to bite her in the a*s.
okay, i was really disappointed with everyone in this episode.
betty and leo:
before ben left for italy they had a big discussion with him about being honest in a relationship and how important it is. now they're telling him to keep it secret and never tell her. what's with that? if i cheated on someone i was dating, i would just feel weird. i would feel like a liar, i just wouldn't be happy in a relationship like that. and i think anyone who can cheat without a second thought about it (like ben obviously), just isn't an honest person. they're not bad people, they just can't be trusted.
anne:
okay, we all know amy's been having a HUGE attitude problem this season. i know she's a teen mom but that doesn't give her the right to be disrespectful to everyone. last season when ashley was still in middle school and she was the one with the attitude, anne had this big talk with her about how that behavior wasn't allowed in their house or anywhere. amy's acting ten times worse than ashley was and anne hasn't said anything. i can't even imagine letting my kids talk to me like that. and how embarassing would it be if you found out your kid was telling off the school councelor for no legitimate reason at all?! i'd probably beat them. i can't believe anne is just letting her act like this, she's being an immature b!tch and it's only getting worse.
adrian and amy:
the only reason adrian is mad at amy is because she's jealous and she's worried rickys gonna chose amy over her. and amy isn't helping herself. if she would just be generally nice to adrian and try to be the better person, adrian would cool off. but amy's being just as bad as adrian. i realise adrian started it, but both of them can finish it and amy's just being really immature about all of this. adrians just a b!tch tp amy, she makes me frustrated. but she's always been like this. amy's attitude has gotten WAY out of hand.
george and ben:
okay, why is everyone so supportive of amy's little mishap with the councelor/football coach? he did nothing wrong. amy shoudn't have called adrian a [filtered word]. i know adrians not the nicest person in the world but amy went in to the conversation in a bad mood and she came out of the conversation in a bad mood. she didn't try to fix things with adrian and that's really immature. i wouldn't have wanted to appoligise to amy either. she was being a b!tch. then she blew up at the councelor about nothing at all. she was just being generally disrespectful and he didn't even so anything! she just feels like she's on top of the world and she can do anything she wants. she needs to be brought down a peg or two but everyone's in support of her. i just don't get it. later in life, this whole "i think i'm better than everyone because i'm a teen mom so i'm smarter and i can talk to you however i want and if you get upset than you're just predjudice and i don't want to work relationships out with people, they should all just appoligise to me because i'm practicly a goddess" routine is gonna come back to bite her in the a*s.
He got the girl Preggo.... Look at her tummy in the previews....
I don't think ben got anyone pregnant. I do however think that he did do something in italy because he was so nurvis about getting the post card. I think that the new girl is pregnant and ben just befriends her but she wants to do more than that but I think that ben loves amy way to much to hurt her. And I don't think that ben and amy would ever get back together. If they did it wouldn't work out anywayz!!!
Candice Brooking
I DISLIKE PEPS THAT ARE KLINGY THATS WHY I HATE BEN LOL. AMY NEEDS TO SEE SHE NEVER WOULD OF HAD SEX IF SHE DIDNT LIKE RICKY. SO SHE SHOULD REMAMBER THE TIME SHE LIKED HIM AND STICK WITH IT.
hannah hall
Ben+Amy=true
YOU SOUND SO DUMB!!!!!!! Sure Amy did like Ricky at one point but she made a mistake by sleeping with him and she knows that. Having a baby with someone doesnt make two people life long lovers. if anything it brings Amy and Ricky closer than they've ever been.Close enough to put up with each other for their son.
~>BossLadii<~
i never liked ben, lol. i like ricky better!
& he did do something in italy, he did it with a girl named maria or marie or something. Amy&Ricky need to get together!
I never really liked ben. but i've always loved ricky(=
I think ben got some girl prego in italy..
like they wouldnt send ben to the city of sex and him come home a virgin. tht would be a waste of time.
it would be crazy if he did but i kinda want it to happen, cuz this show needs a new twist of drama.
I also want Amy & Ricky to date already!!!<3
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I KNOW! its making me mad! like when will they be together? its taking too long!
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Grace & Jack
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Ben-ALONE (he deserves no one)
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i dont think that ben had sex in italy. he probably just found a nice girl he got along with. i think the most ben did in italy was make out with said girl. not more. i think ben loves amy too much to actually have sex with another girl. but if he had sex with a nice italian girl... i would not blame him. i mean a 16yr old male in italy with a girlfriend who will not have sex with him... come on!!!! as much as i like amy, she is just too harsh with ben. it seems like she is punishing ben for her and ricky's carelessness.
i think she came back because she loves him, or because he got her pregnant...
i think ben did do something over the summer BUT shouldnt he have some fun i mean come on his 1st girlfriend was pregnant and she doesnt wanna end up pregnant again sooo if he did do something amy should get over it cuz she was pregnant the whole time they were dating and she's bein a major [filtered word] now..ok yea she's a teenage mom who works and goes 2 school but who's fault is that? not ben's. plus how many single mothers and teenage mothers are out there in the world? alot. my bestfriend is 16 and has a 2 year old son she's not a bitchy [on most days lol] so amy should give the victim role a rest and ben if you had sex this summer GO AHEAD DUDE GET YOURS lol
~love-sick puppy.~
Ben has been the perfect boyfriend up until now.
Even though I do think that Ben cheated on Amy in Bologna,
I think that he is still better for Amy than Ricky. he is more faithful,
and Ricky just wanted to do it with Amy at summer because he likes to have sex.
that's all there is to it. He didn't have real feelings for her then, and I think they might
have more of a relationship now, but Ricky did say he loved Adrian.
Ben, I'm disappointed in you. Come clean with Amy and maybe she will forgive you.
<3 Ben and Amy <3
Mrs. Amy Boykevich
Amy: "Goes well with Boykevich too."
Ben: "Amy Juergens you are the most beautiful, most frustrating girl in the world."