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Posted Fri, 07/17/2009 - 20:11 — disneymaniacOkay so the point of this thread is to muscle up opinions and analyses on the main characters of the show. I want valid reasons for why you think the characters behave as such. This is mostly in response to the constant and consistent posts about Amy's attitude as of late, but also to kind of review the characters as we continue to watch the season and find out the new stuff. The characters that will probably be talked about the most are:
Amy- Why is she bratty? To what extent is she justified in acting this way?
Ben- Why is he clingy?
Ricky- What are his motives for always wanting sex? Is he capable of actually being committed?
Adrian- Why does she allow Ricky to treat her the way he does? Why does she like sex so much?
Grace- Is she finally dealing with her father's death properly?
Jack- Is he truly done with drinking? How has home-life affected the way he deals with situations?
Ashley- How has everything affected her?
These aren't really questions that you have to answer; they're just kind of like guiding questions, like on essays. And if you want you can throw in stuff about George, Anne, Leo, Tom, Kathleen, Cindy, Reuben, Mr.Molina...whoever.
The whole point is that we get alot of responses so that this can stay at the top and counteract some of the redundant posts that we (some, but not all, of course) and so we can have character profiles based on what we think based on what we've seen thus far of the show. I'll take the most valid responses and put them in the main post. We'll start with Amy since she's a heated topic of discussion right now, and then I'll add the others when I get responses. (And, yes, I know this will probably fail, but it's worth a shot and I have nothing else to do at the moment).
AMY
- -Unit7: "She is at war with herself. A side of her wants to prove to the world she can do this, yet the other side wants help and is crying out for it. Yet neither can truly can claim victory. While early on the side asking for help was dominating, the sense of wanting to prove herself has managed to take control. But while fighting, it has neglected to see the truth.
That for her to prove the world, she needs to bring peace to the warring halves and work in unison.
Of course there is also a third party involved. Her motherly senses to protect John from any and all precieved threats to his well being or comfort. Whether its how to propperly get him to feel comfortable at his Nursery, or who baby sits him. As we look in on this, its easy to see the right decisions. It would be easy for us to tell her the correct path, but for her its different. Her decisions are not rational and are not founded on simple logic.
2 parts of her are at war, while another part of her is caught in the middle and has yet to properly develop.
Then there is the whole epic battle between Ricky and Ben. Both trying to do what they think is best, yet at the same time trying to undermine the other. This only stresses her out more, because on some level she sees this battle. Which is why I think she is on edge all the time.
Of course lets not forget her school work. She also wants to have good grades and get a good education so that she can better provide for John."
- -cr112387: "... not every teen that has a baby grows up and realizes that the world no longer revolves around them any more they have another human life to take care. Some teens still live in the fantasy world where the baby just exists but the world still revolves around them... How many people haven't heard...that once you have the baby your teenage life will be over... no more hanging out with your friends, no more partying etc... from now on it's all about the baby??? Those statements are true but with Amy being a new mom it hasn't sunk into her yet and plus I think the purpose of her whining about needing free time or time alone from John is to show teens that once you have a baby your going to want free time or a break but as a mom you may never get it since raising a child is a full time job. [It] is a normal thing for Amy to think [that she is an adult] whether it's true or not.
- -ilovetd: "There's a couple of things going on here, I think. She wants to be a normal teenager, of course. She's furious with herself for letting this happen. She doesn't feel like anyone can understand what she's going through. Also, she has all the classic signs of post partum depression (self esteem issues, 24/7 depression, snapping against the people she loves, wanting a break but not trusting others to watch her baby, etc). I suspect this (PPD) could actually be a very good storyline for this show, actually."
BEN
- -ThankGravity: "For Ben, I think a big reason for hm being clingy is from the loss of his mother. He doesn't want to loose another person. And also, he feels threatened by Ricky because him and Amy are always going to be connected."
- - seclifeislove: "Ben is clingy because of what he has been through in his life thats been hard for him. One his mom died when he was young. Its hard losing a parent at any age but it realy take a toll on you when your young. Because of this he doesnt want to lose anyone especially anyone who hes close with. Also Amy having another guys baby. he might feel somewhat neglacted because he knows ricky and john will always have a place in her heart that he will never have and maybe hes trying to get as much as her heart as he can. Also with losing his mother he might feel like he is going to lose amy becuase of john or because of ricky. Losing someone is one of the hardest things a person can go through so having the feeling of losing his mother and having a chance of losing amy he has to always feel like he needs to show what he feels and always making sure that person will always be there."
- -ilovetd: "Mother's death certainly plays a role. I also think it's part of his personality and the family he was raised in (getting married early, finding the love of your life early, etc). He knows it's possible for and enduring relationship to blossom out of teenage love, because his parents did it successfully. I think that's why he doesn't buy the "you're too young" line completely."
RICKY
- -Hannah_Banana222: "His father sexually abused him when he was little. Being taken advantage of, he now has deep inner desires to do the same to Adrian. Having sex willingly puts him in control for a change."
- -soinlove14: "Why does anyone have sex? That I don't understand. Why do people jump from bed to bed? Just for the fun of it I guess. Maybe he think[s] that he's a failure everywhere else, so he needs to do what he's good at. Sex... Maybe he isn't in control of anything else in his life, but he is in control of who he has sex with."
- -ilovetd: "I don't think he is capable of commitment at this point. He has not fully dealt with the repercussions of the abuse inflicted upon him, and in turn he uses that which controlled him (sex) as a method of gaining control over others. From a very young age, he learned that sex is about control and power, not love, and to control other people you overpower them (emotionally or physically) with sex. He has a lot of growing up to do before he can be a decent partner to any woman. Also, he could very easily slip into the cycle of abuse, which is one of the reasons I find it so disturbing that people on these forums want Ricky and Amy together. Bad boys are not always tameable no matter how much sweet girls want them to be. He's not there yet. The controlling behavior that he exhibits toward Adrian is unacceptable, and could easily be a slippery slope into abuse. He needs some celibate time to learn to love himself."
ADRIAN
- -Hannah_Banana222: "Adrian is insecure. She just wants to be loved. And like many many people, she confuses sex with love. With her mother who's never around and father who didn't care enough to even meet her until she was almost an adult, she has no one but Ricky to love her."
- -LyreLove2012: "It is very sad, but Adrian associates sex with her self-worth (which is why she likes it)."
- -ilovetd: "Major daddy issues going on here. She is looking for love in all the wrong places. I would not be surprised to learn that one of her mom's boyfriends was sexually abusive to her. I think she probably had sex at a young age and liked the results that she could get with it from the people she was sleeping with. She uses her sexuality as a tool to get things she wants. I do love how smart she is, with good grades and such. And fairly responsible - no drugs or alcohol, doesn't speed or drive recklessly, is on the pill and uses condoms, etc."
GRACE
- -writersdevil0203: "Grace took her father's death extremely personal, and used the help others were offering her to learn how to effectively cope with her father's death and learn that life does go on. Although she may never be completely over her father's death, I believe she is dealing with it in her own way and doing it quite well. It seemed as if she used the summer away to her advantage and it gave her something else to focus on other than the fact that her father was dead. I believe we'll see more of Grace becoming her own person and continuing to follow her own convictions as we have in the past. I think she's used her father's death to make her a stronger person and I think were going to see just how strong she's become in these upcoming episodes."
ASHLEY
- -Hannah_Banana222: "She's the only normal character on the show, having little personal drama. Because of this, she is neglected the attention she deserves for remaining sane through all this."
- -ilovetd: "She seems to be the only one operating at full brain power most of the time. Her entire family has their own issues, so you can see why she hasn't reached out for friends much. Why go seeking teen drama when you have so much drama going on at home."

After the mid season finale last night we have gained a new perspective on Adrian. She's insecure because her first moved away and could never love her like they both wanted. This experience also likely made her stop believing in God, if she ever did.
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i feel so bad for amy will you please stop makin her cry lol please make ben suffer cuz hes cheatin on her
kasey gerstenberger
Amy has is really lucky. I mean her parents help and support her and she got a brand new svu like right after getting her license. Some parents won't help teen moms with the baby. My mom has told me a few times that if I got pregnant she wouldn't help me. She says like if your old enough to have sex then I guess your old enough to take care of your own kid. And Amy didn't even have to get a job till after John was born. My mom is telling me to get a job and stuff. Like other teen moms have it really rough and she practically has everything she need or wants. But I hope she mellows out a little bit because she's pushing everyone away.
I dont understand why there are only 12 episodes for season 2. It said that the season finale was next Monday. What gives?
*~*Holly*~*
They ordered 24 episodes for Season 2, so the episodes airing in January are still part of the current season, although they will probaby market it as Season 4. ABC Family is just stupid for confusing people.
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<3ricky and amy 4ever<3
<3grace and jack 4ever<3
<3bella and edward 4ever<3
<3jacob and renneeseme for ever<3
i no they are a great cupple plus they have a baby together
kasey gerstenberger
I have a question. Why are there only 12 episodes for season two? That makes me so mad. I saw a video and it said that the season finale was next Monday. What gives?
*~*Holly*~*
this is really well written, and I like how you guys did it
You're beautiful
Every little piece love, don't you know
You're really gonna be someone, ask anyone
When you find everything you looked for
I hope your life leads you back to my door
Oh but if it don't, stay beautiful♥
ok so i think this guy likes me but im not sure can u gice me a lil help
please
hers a couple things he dose btw hes a pretty good friend of mine
1/today i was at my friends house n she has a pool n he was there n we wer hangin out n i messed up on a dive n for the rest of the day he was joken around wit me n mocking me lolz Blush
2]people behind my friends house the people own deer n me n a couple other grls wer in the back yard n him n his friend wer pettin the deer n he said [my name] come her so i came n he said look at the deer and he didint call anyone else in all the group of girls
3] in the hot tub cuz they have a hot tub i was in there n he was sittinnin a seat n i got in n he asked his sis to move ovr again n he sat nxt to me
well thx thts all i can think of n please answer me Sad
they call me supergrl for a reason!!!!!!
I agree with Unit7 on her view of Amy. It is hard for her to be a teen mom. And she is acting like an adult because one minute she has to be an adult (and be mother to John/be in charge and make the decisions for John) and the next minute she's a teen. So she does sometimes act like an adult when she should act like a teen. She's caught between two totally different worlds. And she is grumpy and irritable sometimes but that's because she's a new mother and doesn't get a lot of sleep and has to go to school, work, then take care of John. And she's a teen and all teens are grumpy and moody sometimes- you have to admit that!

Oh and I have a question for anyone who wants to answer it: Why do some people think it's ok for Adrian to be involved in John's life, but it's not ok for Ben to be involved in John's life??????
*Life Is A Dance To The Music Within You*
Ricky- Being abused leaves bruises that will never go away, it leaves pictures in your mind that you will never forget. But having sex with every girl he sees in the halls is not the answer. Ricky has grown to be more mature since the birth of John. Ricky DOESN'T have to be in a relationship with Amy just because he has a son. He should remain friends unless him and Amy want to go any further. Ricky is lost, he plays referee between Adrian and Amy. He is put in a position that no teenage boy wants to be in. Ricky feels in control while having sex, something he was never used to. He doesn't love Adrian, he loves being in bed with her, her loves taking control of her. Ricky was a god Dad for stepping up to the plate when John was born. But her needs to set a good example for John. John doesn't need to grow up around his Daddy having sex all the time.
Life's a dance, you learn as you go. Sometimes you lead,
sometimes you follow, don't worry about what you don't
know, life's a dance you learn as you go.
Amy- Late nights, long days, short periods of sleep. Being a teenage mother doesn't give her the right to act the way she does. She is lost in her own mind, she tries to cope with school, being a mom and working. Her actions are understandable, but that doesn't make them right. I know Amy hates the fact that Adrian is around John. But John is Amy AND Ricky's baby. Not just Amy's. Amy has to realize that Adrian will be around John because she is in Ricky's life. Amy has to learn how to be independent. She gets everything handed to her. She complains when things don't go her way, she also needs to learn to just let some things go, and that she doesn't have to like Adrian, but they need to be mature, and put aside their differences to make their lives easier. There is nothing that states that being a mom is easy, teenager or not. But Amy needs to learn to be more appreciative.
Life's a dance, you learn as you go. Sometimes you lead,
sometimes you follow, don't worry about what you don't
know, life's a dance you learn as you go.
I think they all changed so much ecept Ashley! I love her she is so funny and the one with the most common since even out of the adults!
Landon Liboiorn <333
No Ashley did change just not as much as anyone else. Remember in the first half of the first season before she knew Amy was pregnant she was a rebel and wanted to get piercings and wore skimpy cloths and now she more conservative, she wears her hair wavy instead of straightening it.
Time flies when you're hanging with your BSLF!!!!!!
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Amy- She's bratty because judging from the first season to now, she has always had things like a loving family, a nice neighborhood, and a sheltered life. Now that she has a baby she's more bratty because she feels like her nice sheltered life has fallen apart and I think that sometimes she regrets having sex in the first place. Now she's not adjusting to being a new mother and it's strange to her compared to the life she had before. I don't think her situation justifies her being bratty. She had plenty of opportunities to make a different decision and she didn't so she should know she had to deal with it.
Ben- I personally don't find Ben clingy, I find him to be caring. I personally feel he's so caring and kind of a pushover because that's just his personality, he's a kind person and he just wants Amy to care for him the way he cares for her, completely understandable and normal.
Ricky- I think he's a boy. Most teenage boys crave sex like Ricky does. Half of me believes Ricky has sex because he loves it, that's pretty obvious. But the reason he needs so many is because I feel he's constantly trying to prove to himself that he's a man and that's his way of coping with the sexual abuse. I do feel he's capable of being with one person but I don't think he wants to at this moment.
Adrian- She allows Ricky to treat her badly because she cares for him and she's been trying for a while to change him and make him only want her. Also I feel Adrian loves sex because well, sex is fun and she has said plenty of times before that she loves sex. It's not that complicated.
Grace- It's obvious she's not over it. But I'm not sure if she's dealing with it properly. It seems like she's holding it all in and I feel that at some point, all her bottled feelings might come out in future episodes.
Jack- It's obvious he's done drinking. He only did it once and that's not enough to really be an alcoholic. And I feel there's probably nothing wrong with his home life. Many teenagers have experienced drinking.
Ashley- I think it's made Ashley more wiser on sex and relationships. After seeing her parents divorced, she seems to think more about how to handle relationships with guy and not end up like her parents and with Amy being a mom, it seems that Ashley is focused on not having sex so she doesn't end up like Amy and if she does have sex, she will probably take precautions.
He got big brown eyes, so he look nice
Coming on strong, six pack showing
He's too cool, for his own shoes
Nothing rude, but way too sure for me
-Aaliyah
Amy- Why is she bratty? To what extent is she justified in acting this way?
I have always been for Amy; although she is acting like quite the brat, I am always ready to step to the defensive line when someone says, "Amy is being such a b****!"
I think some of the stuff she does is justified, and this is me explaining why.
Brat during pregnancy:
A lot of people where complaining about how she was so spoiled when she was pregnant, especially when she was having labor pains at the hospital.
One time my friend told me about someone she knew who had a baby. While she was pregnant, she was having huge mood swings. She yelled at her husband, saying she wanted ice cream. Then, when he got her some, she screamed at him, saying she didn't want it anymore, and wanted something else. It's normal to have mood swings while pregnant on what you want to eat, where you want to go, what you want to do. Some women don't have as bad symptoms, or hardly at all, but it's no surprise when one does. Plus, she has those teenage hormones still in her, which, combined with pregnancy, is a BAD COMBO. And not to mention, school. I don't need to explain this one.
Brat after pregnancy:
Towards Adrian: She has every right to be angry. She's scared that Adrian might start to get more control over John, and she doesn't have a terribly good relationship with Adrian. People get mad when their enemies play with their iPods; imagine having an enemy hold your son or daughter. Not something you want. Also, what Amy says is right: John is a bond between Ricky and Amy that Adrian and Ricky do not have. Even if Ricky gets married to another woman some day, John will always be there, linking him to Amy, whether he likes it or not. Amy is right about that.
Towards people in general: Amy thinks that being a mother means she's an adult, which means she has more authority over her friends and family. This is one where I don't think her actions are justified. She needs to work at being an adult and treat her friends and family with respect. But, to be fair, she is under stress, so it is a bit understandable to be irritable.
As for being a mother, I think she's a great mother. She is good with John, she's showed that (well, except for the time when she had the car seat, but John wasn't in it. LOL). Anyways, I just think that some of Amy's actions are understandable, not saying it's right or wrong, but understandable.
I'm not a good talker, so pardon me if I said something confusing or stupid, I'm just not that good expressing my thoughts in words.
Jenny the Quene
I agree with your opinion. And your comment was written wonderfully btw.
*Life Is A Dance To The Music Within You*
"She has every right to be angry. She's scared that Adrian might start to get more control over John, and she doesn't have a terribly good relationship with Adrian. People get mad when their enemies play with their iPods; imagine having an enemy hold your son or daughter. Not something you want. Also, what Amy says is right: John is a bond between Ricky and Amy that Adrian and Ricky do not have. Even if Ricky gets married to another woman some day, John will always be there, linking him to Amy, whether he likes it or not. Amy is right about that."
While I agree with most of what you have written, I feel that the above does not justify Amy's behaviors toward Adrian in the least bit or make them understandable. As a 19 year old stepmom to a beautiful girl whos now almost 3 (whos mom was 16 and my husband was 18 when she was born), I relate most to Adrian. While I can understand Amy not wanting Ricky to expose John to every girl that comes into his life, Adrian has been in Ricky's life a decent amount of time. Adrian may not have always been the nicest person to Amy, but I wouldn't say they were enemies. Amy blatantly over reacted. If Adrian and Ricky were neglecting John to have sex, that would be one issue. But they weren't. John will always link Ricky to Amy but that doesn't make Adrian or whomever Ricky ends up with later in life any less a part of John's life. That link doesn't make their bond any stronger than what Ricky or anyone might have. My husband hates his daughter's mother. They put on a happy face for the child, but there is no bond between them anymore and while Ricky doesn't hate Amy, chances are they will never be together.
Lol, none of it was confusing or stupid. It was actually well-written, and I agree with everything you said.
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Ricky- What are his motives for always wanting sex? I believe that since he was sexually & physically abused he never knew how to ever be a child, to know what sex was actually meant for, or why it was being done to him. I think that his Father created self-esteem issues for him, which made him feel like he has to have sex to feel like he is somebody and that he is loved. He doesn't understand why he does it, he needs to learn to love himself, respect himself, to not be afraid of what will happen if he stopped having sex, not knowing he'll still be Ricky but he'll be a better Ricky. He's so afraid learning what it'll be like to not have sex and he probably thinks that girls will stop liking him because of it. He's still a work in progress and he should still be visiting his therapist.
Is he capable of actually being committed?
I believe that he can be after he works on himself and gets himself together then he will be able to have a real relationship. I don't believe once a bad boy always a bad boy, Anyone can change they just have to decide for themselves.
Even thought I am a Ramy fan I one of them who doesn't believe that Amy will magically change everything about him.
A girl afraid to love
A guy who doesn't know how
Their feelings resurface
Every time they're around each other
They're unsure if they can trust one another
Even though they fuss and fight
They find away they're way back to each other
Real Love
Grace is definately not over her fathers death. If she was it just would not be realistic. Anyone who has lost somebody that close knows that its impossible to heal from it that quickly. Grace has gone through some of the phases when losing someone. Her first phase was the initial shock which is cheracterized by unrational reasonings, decisions, and those kinds of things. She also went through the mourning. Ricky, i believe, did alot in bringing that about. That was cheracterized by clinginess, to her father's belongings and family. Now she is really trying to do the right thing by going to the medical camp and trying to make her father proud. I think she is almost in denial now. She is trying to make people believe she is ok when in reallity she still has a long way before she starts to heal.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the
My opinion with Ricky is that he was a foster kid all his life. Never really had a chance to claim something as his. He could never call one place home could never call anyone mom dad sis bro. He could never say this is mine. But six he can control he can control where to have sex when to have sex and how to have sex. He wants so much of it so that he can feel that he can claim a large piece of something
-Lady Mapple
Jacks drinking I think was something he was trying to use to deflect the pain of Grace's dealing with her dad (by shutting Jack out.) I do not belive he will start drinking again because the reason for him doing it in the first place (Grace's mourning) is slowly starting to correct itself. Jack may be the strong jock type, but he is really a sensitive guy. In the relationship with Grace, she is more of the emotional stronghold. When her dad died, they had to switch roles which threw things off balance. Hence the drinking.
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You make some good points.
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Well thank you!
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Jacks drinking I think was something he was trying to use to deflect the pain of Grace's dealing with her dad (by shutting Jack out.) I do not belive he will start drinking again because the reason for him doing it in the first place (Grace's mourning) is slowly starting to correct itself. Jack may be the strong jock type, but he is really a sensitive guy. In the relationship with Grace, she is more of the emotional stronghold. When her dad died, they had to switch roles which threw things off balance. Hence the drinking.
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Amy&Ricky
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Grace- Is she finally dealing with her father's death properly?
Grace took her father's death extremely personal, and used the help others were offering her to learn how to effectively cope with her father's death and learn that life does go on. Although she may never be completely over her father's death, I believe she is dealing with it in her own way and doing it quite well. It seemed as if she used the summer away to her advantage and it gave her something else to focus on other than the fact that her father was dead. I believe we'll see more of Grace becoming her own person and continuing to follow her own convictions as we have in the past. I think she's used her father's death to make her a stronger person and I think were going to see just how strong she's become in these upcoming episodes.
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Amy and Ricky should hook up .......

i think ricky wants sex because of the horrible things his father did to him. i think he cares for adrian and amy a lot but he is more serious about amy because they could actually have a future together. he secretly wants amy but her attitude is pushing him away. amy wants to take control but also is secretly hoping for someone to come help her. ricky doesnt see that amy desperately needs help. amy is also denying her feelings for ricky because she is afraid of what he will think. ben is just a needy boy and i dont know why he is so clingy. ashley needs more attention than she gets and she is trying to act out just so she will get attention. adrian is letting ricky treat her that way because she cares for him and doesnt want to disapoint him. she has sex with him so much because she thinks it will keep him from having sex with anyone else. grace,grace,grace,...wow she is a difficult one. i dont know why she is acting this way
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Amy is 'bratty' bcuz she just had a baby and shes 15. shes only bratty sometimes
Ricky's cute, but i hate him for ruining Amy's and her whole families lives.
wow! I think that Amy is being a lot more than bratty, but am glad that people see what I do. she's really needs to grow up for her own sake and the baby. I'm sure that Sailene is not really like that... it is just sad that Amy can't find a way to be happy. Ricky did not ruin Amy's life. It takes two to make a baby. not to mention a baby is always a blessing. Just be clear on that. Not to mention that Ricky is stepping up to the plate and taking responsibility. And no, I'm not saying that sleeping around is ok. I am defianatly against that!! But I am also against holding grugdes. you realize your responsibilty and make your life better because a grudge can become a crutch!
Amy is 'bratty' bcuz he just had a baby and shes 15. shes only bratty sometimes
Ricky's cute, but i hate him for ruining Amy's and her whole families lives.
amy+ricky4ever
amy+ricky+john=happy family
amy+ricky4ever
amy+ricky+john=happy family
Never going to happen (realistically, anyway). They don't have what it takes to make a relationship successful.
so you think amy should be with ricky just cuz they have a baby? he's unfaithful anyway i'm seein that there are a lotta immature kids on here who dk what they're talkin about
~*mrs.erwin*~
very true! people should never get married just because they had a baby. how would you talk to your teen daughter?
Amy-Why is she bratty?
Well from watching the show and reading comments on here. Amy's bratty because she has so much going on in her life. With a baby, a boyfriend who's jealous of the father of your baby and not to mention schoolwork and working at a daycare. You get depressed about it all. She never expected this to happen to her having sex and getting pregnant at a young age. She feels horrible about it still. She knows wha she did was wrong and couldnt do a thing about it. With her parents divorcing and her and her sister fighting most of the time makes you more depressed to the point where your snapping at everyone that you love. I dont think most people who watch the show actually get that. Now does having a baby at 15 lead to PPD? It might when you are have stuff like that going on in you life than yeah.
I dont care what you think as long as it's about me
I totally agree and maybe they'll address that issue on the show. Or maybe Amy just needs to get out alone more. She does have to realize that she can't control her suituation. Depression is a serious issue because it can led to death to oneself or even the child. I think that Amy is just learning the hard lesson of life and she can choose how to respond. However there are people helping her and she is wise to let them. She may need more help with her mom being pregant and all, but i'm sure her mother would have some mother's intuition if she needed help. Anyway i think that they just have Amy act like that to get people to watch. Not every teen mother sinks into depression! most I believe are just forced to grow up fast!
I think your right. But whats PPD???
PPD = Post partum depression... it's depression women who aren't normally depressed get after having a baby. Look at my replies below or look it up like on webmd or wiki or something
There a lot of causes for PPD, but anyone who gives birth is at risk for it. I think the risk goes up for girls/women who were on bed rest, had pregnancy complications, live in already-stressful situations, and don't breastfeed. Since younger mothers are at higher risk for all of those things, than it would make sense that they are at higher risk of PPD because of those factors. Breastfeeding is a huge thing, because nursing helps lessen the hormone crash after birth, as you are still using hormones to produce milk. Without breastfeeding, your body goes from a ton of hormone to nearly none in a matter of days, and the result is often moderate to severe PPD. For whatever reasons, most young moms don't breastfeed, or at least not full time. I did notice that Anne called a lactation consultant for Amy when she first brought John home, and also Ben made a reference to her nursing at one point also, which is awesome. All the girls in my school who have had babies have gone straight to formula, which I think is kind of selfish and not good for you or your baby.
Hello! Not everyone is able to breastfeed. Some have flat nipples and don't have the patience to keep trying. Others just don't produce enough milk. I believe that if a teen can't have patience and willingness to not give up then no they shouldn't breast feed. that can be a selfish thing, but some just don't want to have to deal with it on top of having a baby at a young age.
I however, believe that every preson should make an effort to try. Every mature preson, but keep in mind the reasons I gave you up above. I breastfeed my little girl for two months and didn't give up, but eventually I did not make enough milk. I plan on trying again with my next child.
women's bodies are different so before you judge, ask them why they choose not to breastfeed.
Not having patience, not wanting to try because it's too much to deal with, etc are not good excuses. If you make the decision to have sex and you become pregnant, it is your responsibility and duty to do what is BEST for your child. And that's breastfeeding. Formula does not even come close to the benefits of breastmilk. Scientists are not even close to figuring out something identical to breastfeeding.
If you don't make enough milk, than it's because you are not nursing enough. It's a supply and demand activity. People get into this cycle where they think their kid isn't getting enough milk so they give him a bottle of formula (or they don't want to get up with the baby at night, so they have someone else feed him a bottle at night), which signals their brains to make less milk, so then the kid really isn't getting enough milk, so then the mom gives him two bottles, the cycle continues on and on... then a few days later surprise, surprise she doesn't have enough milk. Mothers who nurse ON DEMAND do not have supply problems. The World Health Organization, the American Academy of Pediatrics and all other major health associations recommend at least 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding (no formula, solids, water, juice, etc) and breastfeeding with the introduction of other foods or at least 1-2 years after.
BTW, my mom is a LLLL, so I'm not just pulling this out of thin air.
I think this falls under the "for whatever reason" that was mentioned. I think the point of the last sentence was that they went straight to formula without even trying breastfeeding, and that is why is was selfish.
Wow that interesting, ive never even heard of that before... like ive heard of PPD. But i didnt relize there would be so many causes.
I dont care what you think as long as it's about me
Yeah, my mom had it with my youngest sister. She had pre-term labor and was on bedrest before the birth and her ob said that was a big factor. Depression at any time would suck, but I think especially after you just had a baby. I felt bad for her.
Wow, that had to suck dealing with her lol
I dont care what you think as long as it's about me