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this is off topic but i need advice to give my sister please help
Posted Wed, 11/19/2008 - 17:32 — girlygirl49176One of my younger sisters is 14 and has recently started cutting her self except for it is with a tape depenser the sharp end of it. and it is on her finger so right now it hasn't gotten that bad. so told her boyfriend and they have been going out for like almost 6 months he got mad at her for it but wanted to help at the same time. then i caught her doing it again and i had a best friend that used to cut herself so i tried to get my sister to stop so i took the tape depenser away and told my parents. so called me tonight and she told her boyfriend that she did it again and got caught and he got mad at her becuase she promised him she wouldn't do it again. and she doesn't understand why he is mad and not helping her through it. i asked her why she was doing it and she said she wanted to try it and then she stopped but then she felt like she had to and is now starting to get addicted to it so we took all the tape despensers and hid them and are trying to get her to stop i know it is hard but anyway.
the advice she asked me to ask you guys is why you think her boyfriend is getting mad at her and not helping her get through it and instead getting mad. if anyone can help me and her than that would be a lot of help. thanks
Sorry if this is confusing the top paragraph is the story the second one is the advice that she needs and asked me to help her with.
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Cool. I'm glad you're becoming a counselor, but no offese, you aren't one yet. You MAY think you know how to handle this with just you and your parents, but odds are, you don't. Talk your parents into paying for a counselor, and get her some PROFESSIONAL help. Good luck! =]
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Yeah we have been talking and we decided to give her a week and if we find out she is contuing then we are going to get her some professional help but right now we haven't noticed anything. thanks though for your help and advice
i had a friend who did this. she told me and i tryed to get her to stop. she never really told me why she did it. but we always wrote notes and one day my mama got one on accident and read it and said she was going to the guidence coucler about it but i told her to wait and let me talk to the girl first well then the next day i talked to her and she said she stopped and she was getting cousling like with a family cousler. so i just dropped it and let her deal with it. well she started again and idk if she does it now or not. i dont really talk to her anymore. and its not bc she cut herself its bc somethangs happened with her and my cousin, so yeah but just stick by her and is she needs anythang then just help her. and as for her boyfriend just give him time to cool down bc this si all new for him so yeah! tell her i said good luck and i hope she will stop!
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Look...I cut, and I can tell you that it is very addicting.
You were wong to immideatly tell your parents, and you should have first spoke with her.
Just telling her t stop, and trying to take away all her "tools" arn't going to make her stop.
Her boyfriend is being a jerk right now, but over time, he will adjust.
Speak openly with your sister about it, NEVER get mad or pressure her, and whatever reason she is cutting, EXCEPT IT! Don't quesion it, or criticise, go ALONG with it.
She is probably ashamed, and honestly, you probably lost a bunch of trust points with her by going to your parentss before you even went to her.
Is she acting at all depressed? No begins cutting for absolutley no reason...there is ALWAYS an underlying problem.
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she actually came to me first wanting me to help her to stop. i have had a best friend that cuts and know how to deal with it. she told me that she wanted to me to tell our parents becuase she couldn't tell them we were talking about it for about a week before she told me to tell our parents. our parents asked he to see what they think she should do to stop and she is the one that suggested taking them away from her. she just called me crying becuase he said he was really mad and disapoitend in her. i do agree he is being a jerk but i have known him for a very long time and it takes him time to adjust to things. i have i haven't gotten mad honsetly i am a little dissapoitned but i have delt with it before. i am actaully going to part time collage and starting to study about becoming a school counslar. i have no idea why she is she hasn't told me that she is depressed. but two years ago we had like three people die and a lot of other people in our family in the hospital. i don't know me and her are very close that is why i have been asking for advice. i have no idea and i am not ready to ask her or pressure her in telling me why she is yet. thanks for helping sorry i didn't give all this info. in the story i orginially posted on here.
He probably just needs some time to cool off. He was probably very overwhelmed with the situation, and just needs to think. I would say to give him a couple of day; 2 or 3. Then try to talk to him.
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I agree he's probably just freaked out and worried about you and is unsure how to handle it. He may not have meant to get upset maybe he just doesn't know how to help, sometimes guys don't get that all we need when we are going through something is just them to be there with us. Give him a couple days and if that doesn't work he wasnt' that much of a catch anyway and you can do better, you deserve someone who will be there for you no matter what and be supportive, that's what us girls all deserve
maybe he doesn't know how to react to the situation and just went into a kind of panic mode and got mad because he didn't know what else to do
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